Brian Loomes J.P. CMC

Rating
1 5 4.9 (59 reviews) 
Service Area
Sydney & Surrounding Areas
Business Hours
New South Wales
Phone
02 9190 0250

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Can a religious priest/minister/pastor marry you in a non-denominational chapel?

Please post as anonymous, thank you.

By Brian Loomes  Marriage Celebrant.  2.00pm  13-2-18

Yes, it all depends on their  beliefs and whether they are prepared to conduct your ceremony outside of their church. Their are a number of non denominational chapels in the Sydney area and it is to my knowledge that some  Clergy attend and conduct ceremonies.  One is the Little Bay Chapel at Malabar, where I have performed many ceremonies, in the back room a marriage book is there, the large leather bound one, larger than the normal RED book.  A quick perusal of the entries, there are many Clergy entries.  As a bit of trivia, I think I am the only Celebrant to have performed a wedding ceremony in a Catholic Church at the request of the couple and with the permission of the resident priest.

Do celebrants usually recommend pre-marriage counselling or courses?

By Brian Loomes, Marriage Celebrant  5-2-18  12 noon

I agree with the other answers supplied.  It is an obligation and a legal requirement to supply every couple with the Government brochure "Happyily Ever - Before and After"   I explain the contents and advise my couple it is their decision as to what action they take in this regard.   It is well established that in many instances the Clergy require couples to attend counselling sessions prior to their wedding. I have been informed by couples they do not require this service and that is one of the reasons for having a Celebrant .

I'm a chilled bride. Is that a bad thing?

I just don't need any stress, and I don't think the wedding is as important as the marriage. Don't get me wrong, is IS important and I have my gorgeous dress and venue, and all of that, but do I really need to be going crazy for months in the lead up, worrying?

No. It is only natural to be a little up tight, it is going to be your big day.  Yes, your marriage is the most important and will always be.  The wedding preparation should be made simple, don't create problems that don't exist, deligate . As a Celebrant I say to every bride, let me attend to the minor details, all you have to do is arrive on time, or nearly, smile and be happy.   Have a wonderful day and a beautiful future.  Best wishes   Brian Loomes.   Celebrant. 

If I am getting married overseas, will my marriage be recognised in Australia?

or do I need to have a legal ceremony here too.

According to advise received from BDM your marriage would be recognised here, howsever it could not be registered with BDM

Can I request my celebrant to wear a certain colour or outfit?

I've seen some awful clashing outfits and celebrants in white etc... is it rude to ask them to wear a particular colour or style? I don't know if I'm taking it way too far haha. But I want everything to look good! It is my wedding day, after all :)

Of course you can, I have obliged many times to wear a blue, black or grey suit. Female celebrants should never outdo the Bride, like you, I have seen some. Best wishes Brian Loomes

How do I change my name when I get married?

How does it all work?

Hi Lucy, Easy, every Celebrant in NSW should supply, complete and submit on your behalf an Application for Marriage Certificate to BDM immediately after your wedding. The certificate will arrive at your address about 2 weeks later. You then take that document to all the places you wish to change your name e.g motor registry, bank passport etc., It is your cost of $53 credit card details on application form. Best wishes Brian Loomes Celebrant.

How early can I file my marriage documents?

Should begin ASAP or does it not matter as long as it's a month prior to the wedding?

Hi Mariana, All he answers already supplied are correct. regards Brian Loomes Celebrant

We have friends that are getting married after us and have invited us, do we need to invite them too?

They're my fiance's friends, I really don't know them very well at all. I haven't spent any time with them and they don't seem important in his life. He hasn't mentioned inviting them, but it seems like the right thing to do. Our wedding is going to be very limited though, about 60 people with half of those being my family. Not sure if we're obligated to invite them or not.

If in doubt, Don't. It's your wedding you and your fiancé are in charge.

How do I deal with my bridezilla bridesmaids

My bridesmaids Comprise of my two cousins , my sister and my friend . My friend has been amazing . But this experience has taught me that my family all have a bit of diva inside them . Initially when searching for bridesmaid dresses every choice I chose was rejected . One wanted to be the centre of attention with a dress , one wasn't happy with a certain cut because it wasn't a cut which flattered her and lastly the other one opposed everything because it didn't meet what they liked or wanted . Finally being happy with my choice of dress which everyone likes I've been showing a few friends , to which my cousin has told me to stop showing them ( I thought it was my wedding ? ) . My sister has now abused me because I've decided to let the makeup artist chose which order she lets everyone have their makeup and hair . I've been told I've lost allegiance to my family , but frankly I'm doing it to save argument and to not be the one who gets the blame . Any tips to dealing with this ???

I really feel sorry for you, with those people, your wedding could be a disaster, you take control and 'sack them' and choose friends and / or relatives who are compatible, there is plenty of time to start again. Best of luck Brian Loomes Celebrant.

I'm looking into booking a celebrant, but I don't understand the difference between ceremony types?

Some provide a "full personalised" ceremony, and others a basic package, what's the biggest difference there? I thought all ceremonies had to be pretty much the same, ie: "Do you ___ take ___ to be your lawfully wedded wife". Please explain how there's such a big difference in price and services? :)

I have read the responses already given and I agree with the contents, it is really up to your own choice, I supply a number of ceremonies for consideration and always advise the legal requirements must be included. Invite any questions or queries, have been a Celebrant for 20 years with a wealth of experience and many 'War Stories'. Best wishes Brian Loomes

I have an issue with someone posting pics of us before we do on social media...

How do we make it known to our guests?

In all my 20 years experience and in excess of 1000 ceremonies as a Celebrant I have never been asked to announce to the guests, not to take photos and not put them on social media. Perhaps a short note on the invitation could assist, but really there is nothing you can do to prevent your 'friends' doing what they like with their photos. Best wishes Brian Loomes


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