Here are some tips for writing personal, meaningful and memorable wedding vows.
Firstly, in Australia at all legal civil wedding ceremonies the bride and groom must start their vows with the following sentence:
"I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, NAME, take thee, NAME, to be my lawful wedded husband/wife". Or words to that effect…
The rest of the vow is up to you…
Most celebrants will have samples that you can choose from but many couples like to write their own.
Here are some tips when it comes to writing your vows:
- What would you like to promise to your partner (serious and light-hearted)?
- Are there parts of your relationship you would like to emphasise?
- Feel free to use attributes to describe your love, your partner and your relationship.
- Do you have special names, words or sayings that are just between you and your partner?
- What does marrying this person mean to you? How does it make you feel?
The basic format is:
- A declaration that you are willing and free to marry.
- A reflection and description of your love and relationship (which may include promises).
- Conclude by a commitment to love and care for your partner whatever the future may bring.
Remember the following:
- This is a public declaration of your commitment so others will be listening!
- Try not to talk for too long! Quality not quantity.
- Vows should reflect on the past but most importantly, look towards your future together.
- Don't stray from your personality – serious, fun, light-hearted – stay true to yourself.
- Above all, they must be sincere.
Don't forget that the bride and groom can have different vows – they don't need to be the same!
Run your vows by a close friend or your celebrant and practice them before the big day.
Have fun writing your vows and remember as long as you are honest, you can't go wrong. Good luck!