HI I have a slight problem and don't know the right way about it. A couple we have known for many years have separated, we have still invited each to the wedding individually. One, however, has sent back the RSVP with a plus one... How do I tell them that it is just them to come Thanks
Tennessee S
Question Asked: 18/09/2017
Wedding Date: 25/11/2017
(0) · Mid North Coast | Coffs Harbour | Foster and all Surrounding areas
Posted: 23/10/2017
Answered by: 5 Experts
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Hi TennesseeSpanos
I wodul agree with the comments below. If the invitation is for one then I would sugest you call that guest and explain the situation and hy you only invited the one and leave it up to them to decide. As long as you are kind about it and ensure that you are strong with your response about no plus ones then you should be fine.
These situations are not pleasant at all, so even suggesting you meet for cofffe to explain the situation would be more personable.
Good luck!
Hi there,
This is always a tricky one! However the fact that your invite was specifically only for them and they added a plus one themselves is a little cheeky!
These situations always warrant a telephone call. Explain to them that the invite was specifically for them and a plus one was not included. If they ask why you can say it's because of catering requirements and the venues maximum numbers allowance.
If they respect you they will completely understand. If they get annoyed then they can decide to not come and that will be their loss at the end of the day.
It is your wedding day :-)
Wishing you all the best.
Jen
www.oceanevents.com.au
Hello lovely!
This is a sticky situation, however it can easily be overcome. Simply contact the guest that has added a plus one and gently let them know that it is invitation only and that no plus ones are accepted. If you prefer, you can send them a message or email if you dont want to call. Dont try to explain too much as to your reason why as it can sometimes leave a bad taste in their mouth. Keep it light and simple!
Have a lovely day!
Kind Regards,
Jess
Hi TennesseeSpanos
Wedding etiquette is that if you only invite one person, there is no plus one. I would suggest calling the guest who has added the plus one and just saying something like - we are so excited that you have accepted our invitation and are going to join us on our big day, however we are really tight on budget and numbers and the invitations are specific to the person on the invite. Really sorry but we aren't inviting any plus ones .
Hope that helps. It's always a tricky one going back to guests who do that. I had that happen at my own wedding with two separate couples. And a phone call is a much better way of dealing with it than text or email or anything that is not almost a face to face. But don't feel that its your problem - its your wedding!! your way!!
Happy planning
Feel free to call for further advice.
Gill
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Hi TennesseeSpanos
Unfortunately this is happens quiet a bit when RSVP's are sent back. A phone call is a must and explain the situation about the plus 1 and cost, numbers etc. Your guest however will be very understanding or not understanding at all, but at the end of the day you are the bride and have the last say.