Ashley Truscott Marriage Celebrant

Rating
1 5 5.0 (2 reviews) 
Service Area
Perth, Rockingham, Bunbury, Margaret River, Mandurah, Peel Region
Business Hours
7 days by appointment
Phone
0438 797 160

Expert Advice

As a wedding professional, Ashley Truscott Marriage Celebrant offers expert advice to help couples plan their perfect day. Ask a question or read their expert advice.


Fun celebrants?

Looking for someone who can make our wedding unique and a bit more fun!

I certainly can make your day special by incorporating into the ceremony how you two met, tell a funny story about the occasion and just generally enjoy the moment and bring the audience into the story. 

There's only two legal requirements for marriage so the ceremony can take any form you choose - eg. a song, a poem, an interpretive dance, it's your choice.

The laughter will make it memorable for years to come. People will say ... 'remember Cristiana and Martins' wedding - remember how funny it was .... that's how I want my wedding'.

If you're in the Perth area then I can assist. Have a great weekend. 

What makes a good marriage celebrant?

I think a good marriage celebrant is one that relates and listens to the couple to incorporate aspects of their individual uniqueness into the ceremony. A celebrant must be easily contactable and offer suggestions to the couple to make their wedding day as special as possible. 

I listen to a couple and observe their interaction in order to offer a suggestion that they never thought about and which turns out to be perfecct for them both. This often occurs during the rehearsal where recently I observed the children of a couple in a blended family being somewhat nonchalant about the ceremony. The next day I suggested that we should do a 'wedding family commitment' which entails inviting the kids up during the ceremony - and I mention the importance of children belonging to a loving home etc. and all parties including the children state 'we do'. 

It turned out lovely - the couple loved it and the children were glad to be part of the ceremony. 

A good celebrant is also a vessel or conduit to express yourselves during the ceremony - as it is a memory which lasts a lifetime. 

Salvation Army celebrant, non-denominational wedding?

Hi all, I'm getting married in October, and I have a lovely acquaintance who has just told me she's a celebrant. She is registered on the Attourney General Celebrants register as an "Authorised Celebrant - Ministers Of Religion For Recognised Denominations - The Salvation Army". Neither I nor my partner are Christian, let alone members of the church, but she is becoming a close friend and I'm wondering if it would be unheard of to have a Salvo minister marry us in a non-denominational wedding?

Hi there, 

Being an authorised celebrant - minister of religion for a recognised denomination should not impact that celebrant's ability to conduct the wedding ceremony. No problems for a non-christian couple to be married in a religious ceremony, however, you must be happy with the wording of the ceremony/ the script, so talk to your celebrant about what is going to be said during the ceremony and ensure you're okay with it. 

Also, as was mentioned previously, contact a couple of other celebrants as part of your due dilligence enquiries - your homework you know, just to satisfy yourselves. 

Happy to discuss.

Ashley 

Does anyone do the classic vows anymore?

I___ take thee ___ to be my lawfully wedded ___. In sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, as long as we both shall live etc Just wondering

Hi there,

These vows are manatory pursuant to s 45(2) Marriage Act 1961:

?I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, A.B. (or C.D.), take thee, C.D. (or A.B.), to be my lawful wedded wife (or husband)?; or words to that effect.

Following this, you may choose to add in your own personal vows from the heart. So if you want to say 'In sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, as long as we both shall live' then you certainly can. You can also add other vows such as:

“WE WILL ONLY NEED EACH OTHER

WE’LL BREATHE TOGETHER, OUR HANDS WILL NOT BE TORN TO HOLD ANOTHER, COS’ WE’RE THE SPECIAL TWO.

REPEAT AFTER ME:            Groom / Bride to say:

 (Bride/ Groom) I CHOOSE YOU ABOVE ALL OTHERS TO SHARE MY LIFE WITH.  I LOVE YOU TODAY AS I DID FROM THE START AND I’LL LOVE YOU FOREVER WITH ALL OF MY HEART.

WILL YOU BE MY WIFE/ HUSBAND FOR LIFE?

BRIDE/ GROOM ANSWERS: “I WILL”

All the best.

Ashley Truscott

Civil Marriage Celebrant

How do I ensure my vows sound good enough?

Hi there,

Remember that your vows are personal and come from your heart, unique and will tell how and why you feel the way you do about the other - there's no objective standard that you have to meet in order for your vows to be considered 'good enough'. They're yours and no-one else's. 

When speaking your vows, be yourself, don't try and over do it, speak truly and let it flow. 

Perhaps, if someone asked you - 'In 20 words or less, tell me how you feel about your bride/ groom' - what would you say?

All the best!

Ashley Truscott

Civil Marriage Celebrant 

Can I get married in both a religious and civil ceremony?

My fiance is muslim and I am catholic, we want to respect the mother and have a 'Katb al kitab' but this happens on a different day to the reception. On the day of the reception we want to have a civil ceremony, please help. Need some advice. Thank you

You can have both ceremonies, however, only one will be recognised for the purposes of a legally valid marriage in Australia.

In your situation it would probably be the civil ceremony to be the legally valid marriage as unsure as to the celebrant arrangements in the religious ceremony i.e. not sure if the Imam in the 'Katb al kitab' will be performing a valid marriage recognised in Australian law or just Sharia law.

Great idea to have both ceremonies to recognise the coexistence of two cultures and the celebration of your future together. In traditional societies, some wedding celebrations would last for weeks and today, I think we could do with some tradtional celebrations that last longer than one day. 

On a point of legality, the celebrant/ Imam must state in the religious ceremony that "this is not a legally valid marriage recognised in Australian law" or something to that effect, so as not to give the impression to the audience that the ceremony is a wedding. 

Hope it goes well.

Are marriage annulments a thing in Australia?

Yes, a marriage may be annulled according to s 23 Marriage Act 1961 (Cth), although occurs infrequently. Seek the advice of a family lawyer or the Family Court of Australia. See also;

Babich & Sokur and Anor [2007] FamCA 236 (9 March 2007)

C and C (Nullity) [1998] FamCA 114 (20 August 1998)

Can a celebrant perform a marriage of his own son or daughter?

Pastor of a local small church group wants to perform the marriage of his son and future daughter in law. In Victoria Australia is this legal?

Yes, there is nothing stopping either a civil or religious celebrant to perform the wedding of a their child, provided all other legalities are complied with. 

I had a chat with my daughter, who is 12 years old, just yesterday about this very thing, I said to her that I wouldn't be able to walk her down the aisle unless I do and then promptly take my position as celebrant. Perhaps her brother could walk her down the aisle. Be a lot easier to do the ceremony for a son as it would be harder to give up the traditional role of walking your daughter down the aisle. No probs for a female celebrant though.

Anyway, it would be an honour to do the wedding of a child. 

All the best!

I'm a chilled bride. Is that a bad thing?

I just don't need any stress, and I don't think the wedding is as important as the marriage. Don't get me wrong, is IS important and I have my gorgeous dress and venue, and all of that, but do I really need to be going crazy for months in the lead up, worrying?

It's not such a bad thing to be chilled, as long as you're organised and have everything in place, then you can sit back and cruise into your wedding day.

A little worry is ok, because you have to plan and think about the 'what if', however, you don't want to be too worried that you miss out on enjoying one of the most memorable moments in life, then again you don't want to overlook something altogether.

Just stay organised and on top of things and you'll enjoy your day. Hope everything turns out bombastically for you, on your wedding day!

If I'm in the middle of an argument with my sister, would it be bad of me to not attend her wedding?

Not attending the wedding will only compound the argument! Even if you're still not talking, I think best to be the bigger person and attend the wedding, it would mean the world to her to be abe to see you there. 

Family, I think, are like partnerships, in business, you may not always agree with your partner, but you decide in favour of the partnership. Family stick with eachother and support eachother through the most difficult times, that's what family is for, we forgive, we apologise, for the benefit of the partnership. 

Perhaps, imagine if the situation was reversed. What if your blood sibling, was not present on your wedding day ........  we don't know the issues involved in the argument, but is it worth it?

I sincerely hope you work it out with your sister and on the day, you embrace and take a fabulous (smiling from ear to ear) photo to remember the occasion.

If I elope, do you think I'll regret it?

I don't want to do the whole big wedding thing so eloping is looking like a good option

Eloping might seem like a preferable option right now, but in years to come, you might find you have a longing for recognition from friends and family of your marriage.

I spoke with a couple recently, that eloped 5 years ago, about a renewal of vows ceremony and there was a lot of emphasis on others not being able to share in celebrating their wedding originally.

You might choose to weigh up the pros and cons of eloping vs having an all out wedding for everyone.

It really depends on your personal circumstances and choice. 

I hope you work it out! 

What's the usual order of events in a wedding ceremony?

Well a ceremony can take many different forms based on the choice for the ceremony of the bride and groom as there are only two legal requirements in the Marriage Act that a civil celebrant must state during the ceremony. This way, the ceremony can take any form as possible although there are typically some formalities in weddings that have become tradition. Also, a couple may choose some symbolism for their ceremony that may take place at the start or end of the ceremony. For example, at the start: sifting of sand, binding or hands, wine or candles ceremonies, specific thematic weddings. At the end, releasing of butterflies, throwing of rose pedals, blowing of bubbles. Some formalities that have becomes tradition, include:

Celebrant welcomes eveyone to marriage of couple and introduces self to guest

Giving of the bride's hand in marriage (optional)

Bride and groom's choice of the body of the ceremony - this is the really exciting part, as the ceremony can take on any form desired by the couple. For instance, I'll be doing a wedding where the couple want me to incorporate aspects of true Australian crime into their ceremony, as they have a crime theme throughout. The ceremony will be conducted at the chapel of an old prison turned tourist attraction. The couple have hired the chapel out. It's going to be amazing.

Reading, poem or prayer

Relevant case study inclusions

The asking (otpional) - who gives the bride's hand in marriage

Exchange of mandatory wedding vows

Celebrant to state

s 46(1) "I am duly authorised by law to solemnise marriages according to law"

"Before you are joined in marriage in my presence and in the presence of these witnesses, I am to remind you of the solemn and binding nature of the relationship into which you are now about to enter.

"Marriage, according to law in Australia, is the union of a man and a woman to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life.

s 45(2) "I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, A, B. or (c,d), take thee, CD or (AB), to be my lawful wedding wife (or husband).

Exchange of wedding rings or other symbolism

Declaration of marriage

Kiss (optional) - alhouugh how better to solemnise a marriage than with a kiss

Signing of the marriage register, 2 x Original certificates of marriage, 1 x certificate of marriage

Presentation of certificate of marriage to the Bride and Groom

Presentation of the Bride and Groom to their guests

Bride and Groom to walk down aisle

Can we still marry if my partner has an expired visa?

You certainly can, provided all proof of date and place of birth and photo ID are shown, with no legal impediments to marriage then you are free to marry.

However, I do caution, that persons in the Australian community must be on a valid visa otherwise, with an expired visa they're an illegal non citizen and by law, are required to be in immigration detention. Best for your partner to contact immigration immediately and obtain a bridging visa before immigration contacts them which may cause problems for your wedding plans.

Worst case scenario, you don't want to be at the altar giving your vows and immigration burst in to detain your partner, that would be tragic and something you want to avoid.

Ashley Truscott

CMC

I am unsure if I want to change my last name when I get Married? Is there anything I should consider

My Fiancé & I are getting Married in early 2018 & he wants me to change my last name to his. I'm not sure if I want to. Is there something I can/should do to make this decision easier?

Hi Kate,

There's no need to change your name to your husband's name, although, it may cause issues later on if you decide to have children, as has been pointed out.

Many married women I know professionally have changed their surname to that of their husband's, and at work they have chosen to remain known by their maiden name, i.e. their email is their maiden name and remains as such, even though out of work, they are known by their married name and strongly identify with their husband and family.

Keeping your maiden name professionally, shows a sense of independence and identity, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Ashley Truscott CMC


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