Mothers at weddings: How to include your mum in your special day

From helping with the planning and preparation to being a part of the ceremony and reception, there are many ways to show your mum how much she means to you on your special day. Here, we’ve rounded up the most thoughtful ideas for including your mum(s) in your wedding.

Your wedding day is significant for everyone involved — especially your mum. If she’s been by your side throughout the planning process, and you’re wondering how to make her feel special on the big day, we’ve got you covered! We recently asked our amazing Easy Weddings celebrants and Instagram followers for the best ways to make your mum feel included on the wedding day, and their answers did not disappoint.

Whether your mum is traditional or unconventional, there is sure to be a thoughtful way to include her that will make your wedding day even more memorable. Read on to discover a bunch of heartwarming ideas for involving her in your wedding.

Ask your mum to be an official witness.

“Many of my couples include their mum in the wedding by asking her to be an official witness,” says Sunshine Coast celebrant Dan Ford. “This is a super-sweet way to involve your mum in the big day and is even sweeter if you make it a surprise during the ceremony!”

Consider having her walk you down the aisle.

For those without a father figure, seeing a mother walking her daughter or son down the aisle is always a special moment. Even if your dad is around, why not have both parents escort you? This is a super thoughtful way to make your mum feel appreciated and included on your special day. You could even have your mum walk you part of the way down the aisle, and your dad finish the rest of the walk.

Ask her to give a reading during the ceremony.

Having your mum deliver a reading at the ceremony is a beautiful way to make her a part of the nuptials. She could either recite something you’ve chosen or come up with her own reading, whether it be a poem or a message from the heart.

“For those wanting to include their mum(s) in the wedding day, I always suggest asking her to do a reading during the ceremony,” says Perth celebrant Lou Mazzulla. “It could be a message they want to share with you or simply a reading of your choice. If you’re including a ritual like pouring of the sand or tying of ribbons, then you might like to involve her in that.”

Have your mum(s) hand over the rings.

“One of my favourite suggestions is to have the mums hold a ring each,” Michael of Simple Ceremonies Sydney explains. “They then come forward at the appropriate moment and hand their son/daughter’s ring to their new son/daughter-in-law, or whichever you prefer. It’s a special moment between the three of you and a fabulous photo opportunity!”

We asked our wonderful Instagram followers how they included their mum in their wedding. Here’s what they had to say:

• I asked my mum to be my witness for the wedding certificate.
• We went wedding dress shopping together, and it was so special!
• I didn’t have bridesmaids, so our mums walked down the aisle for the processional.
• My mum has passed away, so we’re reserving a front-row seat for her with some photos of her as well as a seat at the front table at the reception in her honour.
• Our mothers brought up the rings for the ceremony.
• I reworked my mum’s wedding dress and wore it as my reception dress — she loved it!
• My mum walked me down the aisle with my dad. She also helped me get into my dress while getting ready before the ceremony.
• I wore a necklace from my late mum on my wedding day, so it felt like she was with me.

While your mum may be an integral member of your wedding planning squad, sometimes it helps to leave it to the experts. Chat with our lovely supplier specialists today to get the ball rolling on your perfect day. 💞