Should I be moving my wedding date to suit my aunt and uncle?

They've said that they can't come even though I gave them heaps of notice. I know my mum will care if they're not there

Question Asked: 6/03/2017

Wedding Date: 4/08/2018

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Windwood Events

(6) · Sydney, Central Coast, Hunter Valley, Southern Highlands, Canberra, Blue Mountains

Posted: 7/03/2017

Hi Bride to be,

This is a tough one, but I generally think, if you are asking this question, then you know the answer, and you just want to be reassured, that it's ok. Whichever way you decide, it is ok to not change the wedding date, if that's what you want to do, but in saying that if you did decide to change the date, they may not be available on the new date. I would suggest sitting down with your mum and see if she can speak to your Aunty and Uncle, maybe there are other reasons why they can't come, especially since you did give them plenty of notice. Just remember either way you decide, will be difficult, but it has to be what works best for you and your fiancé. I wish you all the best. Leisa

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K.I.S.S. Weddings and K.I.S.S. Pop-Up Weddings

(5) · South West of WA

Posted: 7/03/2017

How important is it to you to have them there? How important is it to you to make your mum happy?

If you have a special relationship with them and their attending will make a big difference to your day (or your mum's and you really want her to enjoy the day as much as she can) then change the date if possible. Is your mum putting in money towards the wedding? Some weddings, especially in the past, can be more about the parents who are paying inviting the guests that want to attend.

How many plans are already in place? How many other details need to be changed / will cost money if you change the date?

If you change the date, another consideration is if it will affect other guests who have already worked around the date you chose. Perhaps you put it out to all to see if the date change causes more issues?

Good luck, hope this helps you come to a decision and you have an amazing day.

Simone Ross wedding consultant

(2) · Newcastle / Hunter Valley / Port Stephens and surrounding areas

Posted: 7/03/2017

Hi Bride to be, it all depends on your relationship with your Aunt & Uncle. If not having them there is an issue for you and your Mum, then definitely the thought of a different date may work for you. It will also depend on if you have booked any venues or vendors, changing your date may impact on these decisions you have made. I hope this helps you with your decision, good luck and all the best for your big day

Kind Regards Simone - Elegant Dream Wedding & Event

Kelly-Louise Weddings

(1) · Melbourne

Posted: 7/03/2017

It really depends on how important it is to you that they are at your wedding. If they are unable to attend, but your venue is booked and you would really rather not move your date, then no. Sadly, not everyone can attend a wedding. But, if it is highly important to you that they can make it, and you are in a position to move your date without causing any additional issues, than go ahead.

You certainly don't 'have to', it's just about whether you 'want to'.

I hope this was somewhat helpful.

If you need any help, get in touch.

Kelly-Louise

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