My mother in law is being a nightmare! will a planner help?
Question Asked: 20/11/2025
Wedding Date: 9/08/2018
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Absolutely!! having a planner will help! I can step in as the buffer, handle tricky conversations with your mother-in-law, and keep decisions focused on what you want. You get to stay excited about your wedding while I manage the stress.
In most cases, absolutely. A planner gives you a clean buffer and a bit of tactical air cover. When the “brilliant ideas” start pouring in, you can simply say, “Love it, our planner is across all of that.” It takes the heat off you and keeps everyone feeling like they’re contributing.
Behind the scenes we’re the ones doing the heavy lifting. Planning, styling, coordinating, sorting the tricky bits. And we work with as much or as little direction from you as you want. You stay in control, we handle the noise.
Will a strong-opinion MIL still try to weigh in? Probably. But the difference is you won’t be the one stuck managing it. You get to step back and say, “We’ve handed everything over,” while we take care of the boundaries, the gentle redirections and the diplomacy.
It keeps the peace, keeps the planning fun, keeps your day on track - exactly how it should be :)
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Yes, hiring a planner can be very helpful. We create a structured planning process, manage expectations and diplomatically handle family dynamics so that you don’t feel pressured or overwhelmed. Your planner becomes the “go to” person for questions, opinions and logistics. This often reduces tension with a mother in law who is overstepping.