My mother in law is being a nightmare! will a planner help?

Absolutely — a wedding planner can help immensely in situations like this.

A big part of my role is managing dynamics, expectations and boundaries so that you get to enjoy the wedding planning process without unnecessary stress.

When a family member (or anyone involved in the day) becomes overwhelming, emotional, or overly controlling, a planner acts as a neutral buffer. I step in professionally, redirect conversations, handle difficult logistics, and ensure decisions are based on your vision — not pressure from others.

Most couples feel an immediate sense of relief once they realise they don’t have to navigate these situations alone. You deserve a smooth, calm, enjoyable lead-up to your wedding, and a planner can absolutely protect that for you.

If this is something you’re dealing with, feel free to reach out — I offer complimentary initial chats so we can talk through what’s happening and how I can support you in creating the day you want. ??

Absolutely! Although we can’t completely stop any comments she may make, I always tell my clients to blame it on me or simply say, “I’m not sure my planner is handling that,” even if you know exactly what’s happening. My biggest tip is to avoid involving too many family members in the planning process. Just say you’re still deciding and move the conversation along, even if you already have everything worked out behind the scenes with your planner.

On the wedding day, I always tell my clients that if they have a difficult family member  or even a difficult bridesmaid and the venue is close to the accommodation, send them to me. I’ll happily give them a small task to help with setup. It makes them feel like they’ve contributed, and it gets them out of your hair at the same time!

Absolutely! A professional planner can help with most wedding nightmares, including tricky family dynamics!

We’re in a time where weddings are shifting away from very traditional formats, and that can sometimes be challenging for older generations to understand. They may have different expectations about what “should” happen on the day.

A planner acts as a calm, neutral buffer. They offer reassurance, delegate tasks, guide decision-making, and help keep everyone on the same page. Most importantly, a good planner can gently pre-empt conflicts before they escalate, ensuring your day stays stress-free and focused on what truly matters.

Yes, hiring a planner can be very helpful. We create a structured planning process, manage expectations and diplomatically handle family dynamics so that you don’t feel pressured or overwhelmed. Your planner becomes the “go to” person for questions, opinions and logistics. This often reduces tension with a mother in law who is overstepping.

Absolutely!!  having a planner will help! I can step in as the buffer, handle tricky conversations with your mother-in-law, and keep decisions focused on what you want. You get to stay excited about your wedding while I manage the stress.

In most cases, absolutely. A planner gives you a clean buffer and a bit of tactical air cover. When the “brilliant ideas” start pouring in, you can simply say, “Love it, our planner is across all of that.” It takes the heat off you and keeps everyone feeling like they’re contributing.

Behind the scenes we’re the ones doing the heavy lifting. Planning, styling, coordinating, sorting the tricky bits. And we work with as much or as little direction from you as you want. You stay in control, we handle the noise.

Will a strong-opinion MIL still try to weigh in? Probably. But the difference is you won’t be the one stuck managing it. You get to step back and say, “We’ve handed everything over,” while we take care of the boundaries, the gentle redirections and the diplomacy.

It keeps the peace, keeps the planning fun, keeps your day on track - exactly how it should be :)