Writing vows

I'm so nervous can I use chatgpt

Question Asked: 17/07/2025

Wedding Date: 9/08/2018

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Margaret Bates Marriage Celebrant

(72) · Statewide Victoria

Posted: 18/07/2025

The date of thr wedding is 2018?

Answered by: 4 Experts

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A Life Celebrant - Lou Szymkow

(8) · South Coast NSW

Posted: 18/07/2025

Yes, you can, but do you really want to?

The thing about chatgtp is that none of it is really original or personal. Someone, usually in an African country, is sitting at a computer and entering data to recognise 'vows' that are online. Once taught what a vow is, the AI then extracts bits and adds them together.

You can do the same and make it real. 

There is the legal bit (vows) that your Celebrant will advise you on: "I call upon everyone here to witness that I, A.B. (or C.D.), take you, C.D. (or A.B.), to be my lawful wedded wife (or husband, or spouse, or partner in marriage).... and you don't actually have to say more than that however, many want to.

The key is to say how you feel.

Here is a guide:

Personal vows are you expressing your love and the reasons that you have chosen to marry, that one amazing person.

Expressing your feelings can be daunting, especially when trying to say it all in just a few words but you don’t have to say it all, just say why you want to marry because you will have the rest of your life to say it all.

Relax because the words are already there in your heart and so we just have to find them.

There are some simple one-line vows later on this page but following this section will have your Vows written in now time

  1. We first met when… 
    • Where did you meet
    • How did you meet
    • How did you feel at that moment?
  2. I realised you were the love of my life when… 
    • At the first kiss
    • The moment you spoke
    • I wanted to be with you all the time
    • I couldn’t stop thinking of you
    • I felt wonderful anytime you walked into the room
    • I could smell you hair, and smile even when you weren’t there
    • I couldn’t see a future without you
    • I feel tingles every time I thought of you
    • With just crept up on me
    • Before we even met
    • I realised my life has changed
  3. When I am with you,
    1. I get chills and thrills
    2. My heart races
    3. My world seems wonderful
  4. Since you came into my life, I have grown as a person because… 
    1. You have changed how I see the world
    2. I want a better life not just for me but for us both and our children
    3. I want to be better and am better
    4. I am the person that I always wanted to be but didn’t realise it
  5. What you mean to me is…
    • My life is better because of you
    • I am safe and secure and see a future with love
  6. Three things I love about you are (make your own list):
    1. The way you walk
    2. The way you talk
    3. The way smile
    4. The curve of your face
    5. How you make me feel
    6. Your eyes and how you look at me

Ok, that’s more than three but you get the idea.

  1. You are:
    • the most wonderful person I have ever met.
    • The most beautiful person I have ever seen
    • the love of my life,
    • my everything,
    • my reason to breathe,
    • my playmate,
    • my partner in crime,
    • my today, tomorrow and every day.
    • amazing, wonderful, inspiring
    • the one I have dreamed of meeting, but never believe it could be true
  2. I love that you love:
    • Me, despite my quirks and foibles
    • The movies/sports/things that I like
    • Sharing life with me
    • Our children & pets
    • Adventure
    • Waking up beside me
    • being close to me
  3. I realised that you were my forever love:
    • the first moment I saw you, my heart stopped
    • Before I even met you
    • The moment you walked into the room
    • when I looked into your eyes and saw all my tomorrows
    • The moment you walked out of the room, and I felt my world was empty without you
    • Our first kiss
    • When I saw your eyes
    • When you smiled
    • When you laughed at my jokes
    • When I felt like an idiot, but you took my hand and smiled.
    • When I tasted your lamb roast
    • When my parents hated you
    • When my parents said they loved you
    • When my best mate asked if he/she could ask you out
    • When I realised I was a much better person because you are in my life
  4. I remember when:
    • We had our first coffee/scotch/tequila/walk/holiday/laugh
    • You made me feel I was floating on air
    • We went parachuting/hang gliding/bungy jumping
    • You/We, fell over in the mud
    • We met at the theatre
    • We watched our first sad movie together
    • Our hands touched when we both reached for the popcorn
    • We got drunk together
    • I fell and you caught me
    • I threw up and you held my hair
    • We sat talking until dawn and watched the sunrise together
    • We chatted on Tinder before realising we were in the same train carriage
  5. My promises to you are:
    • I will always support you
    • I will be by your side when you are sick
    • Cook for you and/or feed you when you are hungry
    • I will forgive you when you get mad
    • to never steal the covers unless, you’re hogging them
    • to say I love you every single day
    • Make you laugh even if you don’t want to
    • I will go to any length to make you happy
    • To never hurt you but to always protect you
    • I will put the toilet seat down (if I remember)
    • Go to a church with you
    • Never say you look fat in that
    • To read or write a poem for you at least once a year
    • Always be with you whatever happens in our lives
  6. I look forward to:
    • Sharing the rest of my life with you
    • Having 15 kids, three dogs, two snakes, an elephant, and a 100 rabbits (well, just two rabbits but they breed faster than we do)
    • Travelling the world with you even if it is just to Ulladulla
    • Breathing the same air as you for all of our lives
    • Kissing you goodnight every night and waking up beside you every morning
    • Doing stuff together
  7. I will continue to do this:
    • As long as we both shall live.
    • Forever and a day,
    • for eternity
    • until death does us part.
    • Until South Sydney wins the premiership

Hills Celebrant Services

(232) · Brisbane & Surrounds | Sunshine Coast | Gold Coast | Northern NSW | Willing to Travel

Posted: 18/07/2025

Yes, you can use it as it can be a great tool when you are stuck what to say and how to say it. My advice is to ensure you give it prompts and dots points of what you would like to say to ensure it sounds like you. You will probably need to make changes to it using your own language.

Reflecting on your journey, sharing anecdotes, and expressing genuine love with a touch of humour and vulnerability create heartfelt and memorable vows. It's all about authenticity and connection, for example:

- Start by reflecting on your journey as a couple and the unique qualities that you feel best define your relationship.

- Express your love authentically, using specific anecdotes and shared experiences that highlight your bond.

- Speak from the heart, conveying your promises with sincerity and clarity.

- Keep the tone genuine, and don’t hesitate to inject moments of humour or vulnerability.

- Consider addressing your partner directly, expressing gratitude for their presence in your life and articulating your aspirations for the future together.

- Keep it concise but impactful, ensuring that your words resonate with both you and your partner, on your special day.

I wish you all the best.

Kim O'Sullivan Celebrant

(15) · Wollongong, South Coast (as far as Nowra), Southern Highlands and Sydney

Posted: 18/07/2025

Chat is as good as what you ask it. You could try it and use it for a guide. Make sure you personalise and make your vows meaningful and from the heart. Your celebrant can give you ideas or you can google ideas. 

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