There are so many choices for a celebrant... How can we narrow down and pick one for us?

We are having just a small wedding - 20 guests. It will be a simple ceremony followed by the reception. We don't want to spend too much, but would like a celebrant who can make the short amount of time special.

Arriele B

Question Asked: 1/07/2023

Wedding Date: 1/10/2023

Most Helpful Response

Josh Withers

(46) · Hobart & Tasmania

Posted: 19/09/2023

Whether it's an intimate affair or a grand event, getting married is a special moment in your life that you'll cherish forever. But let's talk about that all-important person who'll guide you through your vows: the celebrant. With so many choices out there, finding the right one can be a bit like online dating, just without the awkward coffee meetups.

When you're having a small wedding with just 20 guests, you might think, "Oh, any celebrant will do." But you'd be missing out on something essential. A small gathering intensifies the emotional weight of each word spoken, every glance exchanged. In such an intimate setting, the right celebrant can make or break the atmosphere. So how do you go about picking the perfect person for your simple but special day?

  1. Do Your Homework: Yep, just like school, the internet is your best friend here. Take a look at their websites, read reviews, and check out any videos or social media they might have. Don't just skim; read with purpose. Are they experienced with smaller weddings? Do their words resonate with you?
  2. Virtual Coffee: Most celebrants offer a free consultation, usually over a video call these days. Take advantage of it! These initial conversations can tell you a lot. You're looking for someone who can match your energy, enthusiasm, and excitement for your marriage.
  3. Talk Budget: Since you're aiming for a simpler ceremony, you might be budget-conscious. Be upfront about this; some celebrants offer packages that are tailored for smaller gatherings. However, don't just go for the cheapest option; remember, the value isn't always in the price but in the experience they'll bring to your special day.
  4. Compatibility: Your celebrant should be someone who creates a safe, joyful space for you both. This is where you'll exchange vows, maybe shed a tear or two, and definitely share a kiss or several. Feeling uncomfortable or forced in that moment is the last thing you want.
  5. Personal Touch: The celebrant you choose should be willing to incorporate elements that are unique to your relationship into the ceremony. Be it a special reading, a meaningful ritual, or just a personalized introduction, these little touches can make your ceremony uniquely yours.
  6. Trust Your Gut: You know that feeling, right? When something just clicks, and you find yourself at ease? Trust that feeling. Sometimes, the best choices are made when we listen to our instincts.

Choosing a celebrant isn't about the number of guests or even the cost—it's about how comfortable and confident you feel exchanging your vows in front of that person. Take your time, talk to a few, and go with someone who makes you think, "Yes, they get us."

Good luck in your search, and remember, the right celebrant will make your small wedding feel just as monumental as a royal affair. Cheers to finding that perfect fit! ??

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Rite Ceremony 4U

(10) · Ballarat, Bendigo and Surrounds

Posted: 20/03/2025

Read their reviews on their web pages.

cheers David 

Ceremonies by Helena - The Celebrant Cafe

(6) · Brisbane, Sunshine Coast, Gold Coast

Posted: 18/11/2024

You need to be honest with yourself and your gut feelings.

The celebrant needs to reflect what you wish for, how you want your ceremony to feel and look.

Make the time to arrange a quick chat with a few celebrants and dont rush.

Congratulations x

Treasured Ceremonies

(18) · Byron Bay to Ballina , North Coast NSW and Gold Coast QLD

Posted: 19/09/2023

A celebrant should respond to a short list of your requirements. 
Send as many emails as you want to celebrants in your area (or the area where the ceremony will be)
detail YOUR wishes.
Review the first five or six which come back, call or video call the top three
CHoose on the personality and suitability.  

All celebrants do the same terrific job - as they responsive and do they suit your character and wishes.

PH Celebrants

(5) · Melbourne and Statewide Victoria

Posted: 15/09/2023

Hello Arriele, 

Firstly congratulations on your engagement. It is always good to have a look at celebrants websites and google reviews this will give you a good idea of what people say about the celebrants and you can determine if they are the right fit for you. Do reach out if you would like to have a chat.

Warm regards, 

Petra

PH Celebrants 

www.phcelebrants.com.au

Sarahmonial Services Celebrant and MC

(21) · Sydney

Posted: 31/07/2023

Hi,

It is such an intimate journey that is shared between a couple and a Celebrant. I think it is feel. It is very personal. Chat with a few and go with your gut! :)

Heart2heart Ceremonies

(15) · Scenic Rim | Gold Coast | Brisbane

Posted: 14/07/2023

It's good to chat to a few that stand out to you when you look at their profiles. Most celebrants will be open to creating a ceremony that aligns with your vision for your day. So I'd suggest choosing the one who makes you feel most relaxed and who gets who you are and what you are looking for, someone you can easily communicate with. If you feel relaxed with them, when it comes time for your ceremony, you'll be able to relax and enjoy it. Wishing you a super day!

Celebrate with Deb

(29) · Victoria

Posted: 5/07/2023

Choosing a celebrant is the most important decision of your wedding, especially with a small gathering. A celebrant can make or break the ceremony and  vibe for your whole celebration. Look at reveiws and photos. Take the time to talk to 2 or 3 Celebrants, face to face/in person if possible and choose the one that you feel most comfortable with. One that wants to know about you and will take the time to get to know you as a couple. The more you are comfortable to share with your celebrant, the better the ceremony will be. Even a short ceremony can be personalised and make everyone feel special.  Happy to help if you are in Vic.  xo Deb

Simon J. Robinson Celebrant

(12) · Melbourne and surrounding areas

Posted: 5/07/2023

Its a tricky one as, essentially, all celebrants offer the same thing so it's relly down to finding a person you feel you can relate to and who can reflect what you and your partner want from the wedding. I'd suggest a short list and then have a chat to each one and see who feels 'right' :)

Christine Trenwith Marriage Celebrant

(86) · Adelaide & Beyond

Posted: 4/07/2023

Hi there, congratulations on your engagement and approaching marriage.  I've been a marriage celebrant for 14 years and married over 700 couples, so just make sure you research Celebrant's profiles on all platforms and check out their reviews and what people say about their service and also their photos and videos will give you a good idea if they seem suitable for you.  Then contact them for an obligation free chat and ask questions, then if you like what you hear, organise to meet them in person which will really help you to make a decision whether they are the Celebrant for you!  I hope this helps 

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