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Are you having a wishing well at your wedding?

Whether you’re asking for a loan, a pay raise or for guests to contribute to a wishing well at your wedding, requests for money can be difficult, if not downright embarrassing.

That’s why asking guests for cash presents rather than traditional wrapped gifts can be awkward.

However with many couples already living together before marriage and so many who, individually, have their homes already set up, it’s a request that’s becoming more and more common.

Of course, that’s not the only reason couple’s request cash gifts. Some genuinely need the money, others wish to put it towards, say, a honeymoon or a house deposit, perhaps even towards renovations or a bigger present such as a painting, something that constitutes a single, really big wedding present that they really want and will always remember.

And then there are the couples who just prefer cash.

Regardless of the reasons, it can still be uncomfortable asking your guests for presents of money and, as such, couples have come up with a more diplomatic means of doing so, wishing well poems.

Wishing well poems are a gentle way for couples to ask for cash gifts in the hopes of not offending guests. As you’ll see from the examples below, wishing well wording varies in length and diplomacy. Some are gentle and funny, others make their message immediately clear.

Wishing well wording (we hope) won't offend!
The term ‘wishing well poem’ comes from the fact that many couples provide a wishing well (though now it can be in the form of suitcases, birdcages, even just pretty boxes) into which guests can place their money-filled envelopes before making a wish, usually for the couple. However, they’re also known as Money Trees and Treasure Chests, among other things and, of course, many cultures feature such celebrated wedding traditions as pinning money to the bride’s dress or filling bride’s purse with money during the reception.

The aim of such traditions, which started long before couple’s lived together before marrying, was always to ensure the bride and groom walked way at the end of their big day with a small nest egg to start their married life. Guests who put in what they could afford, if they could afford anything at all.

So, just keep in mind that though you may prefer cash, your guests may not. Perhaps they don’t have the money to give or maybe they may prefer to give you something particularly special that you will treasure as something you received on your wedding day. Either way, if you are going down the wishing well route, be sure to make it clear that cash presents are not mandatory and that you are merely making a request, not demanding guests hand over cold hard cash.

You can either add the poems onto your invitation or, as so many couples do, simply print it out on a notelette or small slip of paper and leave it for guests to decided what they wish to do, but also what they can afford.

Here are some of our favourite wishing well poems:

 

(1)
“Our two families have come together as one.

We really hope you can join in the fun.
A wishing well we thought would be great,
but only if you wish to participate.
A gift of money is placed in the well,
then make a special wish, but do not tell!
Please do not be offended by our request,
as our day is complete having you as a guest.”

(2)
If you were thinking of giving a gift to help us on our way.
A gift of cash towards our house, would really make our day.
However, if you prefer a gift, feel free to surprise us in your own special way.

(3)
If finding a gift is hard to do,
Perhaps our wishing well is for you.
A gift of money is placed in the well.
Then make a wish… but do not tell.
If, however, a gift you’d prefer to find.
Be assured we will not mind.

(4)

So what do you get
For the Bride and Groom,
Whose house needs things
In every room?

When shopping for a gift,
You needn’t be rash,
As there’s always the option,
To just give cash!

We hope you don’t find,
Our request to be funny
The decision is yours:
To buy a present or give money.

Now you have the choice,
Please do not fuss.
The most important thing of all,
Is that you’re there to celebrate with us!

If poetry is not your style, you can just word the requests politely, something along the lines of:

The most important thing is to have you with us on our special day. No gifts are needed or expected, however we have been asked what we need or would like and,
if you do wish to give us something, a little cash to spend on our honeymoon would be very much appreciated.

For more wishing well wording ideas, click here.

Do you have (or have you seen) wishing well wording that you like? If so please submit it below and we’ll add it to our ever growing list!



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20 June, 2012

Kristy_gentle says:

Although a gift from the heart
Is always a pleasant start
We’ve lived together for quite a while
We’ve everything needed to live in style
What we really need is a getaway
In the form of a romantic holiday
To the Cook Islands we’d love to go
But to do that we need a little doh
So if you should choose to donate cash
To the Kristy and Jon honeymoon stash
There will be a wishing well provided
For you to drop your gift in to
Don’t forget to make a wish and
sign your name so that we can thank you
 

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20 June, 2012

Sueandneil2012 says:

Soon you will hear our Wedding bells,
as friends and family wish us well.
Our household treasures are not brand new,
we have twice the things we need for two.
Since we have our share of dishes and bedding,
we’re having instead a wishing wellwedding.
But more important we ask of you,
your prayers of love and blessings too!

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20 June, 2012

Kirsty says:

In our house we have the things
That living together normally brings
Most household items we’ve already bought
And because of this reason we thought
A wishing well would be great
(Only if guests wish to participate)
A gift of money is placed in an envelope
So in the future we hope
To furnish our home to its very best
And always remember it was
due to our guests

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20 June, 2012

Nat says:

Because we’ve been together for a little while now
We’ve collected all our household things, before we took our vows
If you were thinking of giving us a gift to help us on our way,
A gift of cash in our Wishing Well would really make our day.

Short and Sweet.

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22 June, 2012

Kristy <3 says:

The date has been set, and we’d love you to come,
To our wedding down south, a long way for some,
All you must do, is decide what to wear,
Then polish your jewellery and cob your hair.
Don’t worry about gifts, don’t buy us a yacht,
The things that we need, we’ve already got.
Don’t go out shopping or get yourself stressed,
Don’t alter your plans for a pre-wedding rest.
If you want to be generous, to the soon to be wed
Then save yourself the hassle and do this instead…..
Contribute to our wishing well, we will be grateful,
We’ll go somewhere hot, where it will be blissful,
A honeymoon would be marvellous, to start off our life,
In our long winding journey, as new husband and wife!

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    8 January, 2013

    Stripe says:

    Brilliant!  Thank you Kirsty for the inspiration.  This hits the mark perfectly.

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6 July, 2012

Sarah says:

Soon you will hear our wedding bell
As friends and family wish us well
We have our share of dishes and bedding
And so we’re having a wishing well weddingA garage door and down lights cost quite a pennyToo much for one, but not for the many!However, if giving a gift is a mustThere is a list of things selected by usBut more importantly we ask of youYour love and best wishes as we say “I do!”

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19 July, 2012

Bellenzabistro says:

Great post on what could be a tricky matter!

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