Does the celebrant have to do the whole "how they met" story?

I feel like that might be awkward for us. We are a super stong and stable couple now, but when we met we still had a lot of growing up to do (we were teenagers, and broke each others hearts.) We had a huge falling out and reconnected later. It was very messy and all of our fam and friends know that. Do we have to go into that when our life is so beautiful NOW, and has been for years now?

Question Asked: 25/02/2018

Wedding Date: 9/08/2018

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Linda Hamill Civil Marriage Celebrant

(40) · Melbourne and surrounding areas | Victoria Statewide - will travel

Posted: 4/07/2018

Not at all! the celebrant can focus on things like your happiest moments, or what do you love about each other. The ceremony is what you want it to be :-)

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Kaye Hartog

(2) · Adelaide and Surrounds

Posted: 12/04/2018

The "how they met "  story is entirely up to the couple, it is not a legal requirement. :) 

Kerrie Boag Celebrant

(10) · Perth & Surroundings

Posted: 5/04/2018

There are Legal obligations that a celebrant must include in your ceremony, but your story is not one of them.  We can include as little or as much as you wish.  It is important to rmember that you and your partner are the fous of the marriage.

Treasured Ceremonies

(16) · Byron Bay to Ballina , North Coast NSW and Gold Coast QLD

Posted: 29/03/2018

No, the ceremony is about you as a couple but you do not need to have a how they met story. You must make sure the whole ceremony is about you and want to feel on the day. What the celebrant says is very important and dont let anyone tell you that you have to do anything. happy to discuss.

Simone Butler Marriage Celebrant

(4) · Sydney

Posted: 15/03/2018

While there are certain things your Celebrant needs to say (for legal purposes) your story is not one of them. It is completely up to you as to what you what your Celebrant to say about your relationship. 

Vanessa Hateley Celebrant

(2) · Melbourne, Mornington & Surrounds

Posted: 5/03/2018

No the ceremony should be created for you and be eaxctly what you want there are some legal components that must be completed by the Celebrant for example the Celebrant must introduce themselves using their full name, the Monitum must be read, both couples names must be said in full and of course the legal vows. Everything else is written for you with your approval. 

Marry Me Annie

(20) · South Australia

Posted: 5/03/2018

the sory you want to tell is the one that connected you. its not always the first meeting or first date. You dont want things brought up that you are not comfterbale with there is spo many things to talk about if the origional meeting is not relevant. find the funny stories and the things that make you both happy. Focus on the now as well as the goals and dreams that are to come.

Charmaine Tully Celebrant

(4) · Blue Mountains & beyond

Posted: 2/03/2018

Your celebrant is guided by what you want to be said in your ceremony.  Your "how they met" story doesn't need to be told.  You can find another way to celebrate your relationship.  Maybe a poem or lighting a candle or another small ritual or perhaps someone can do a reading.  Remember your ceremony should be about what you want so it is important to be clear and communicate what you want to your celebrant.  Apart from the legal words that need to be said, the sky is your limit.

Aura Ceremonies

(3) · Sydney & Surrounding regions

Posted: 28/02/2018

Hello, No. There is not one option of a ceremony and it sounds like you and your partner are in a great place. Your ceremony should highlight your strengths and celebrate your future. If you want to discuss ideas and options for a personal ceremony feel

free. Good luck. I hope you have a wonderful ceremony and celebration. 

Dusk To Dawn Celebrant

(5) · Brisbane and Surrounds, Gold Coast, Tweed Heads, Sunshine Coast, Toowoomba,

Posted: 27/02/2018

No The Celebrant does not have to go into how you met as a celebrant I design a wedding ceremony that suits my couple you can put as much about how you met what you love about each other why you decided to get married or none at all.  

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