If a Couple Doesn't Kiss at Their Wedding, What Else Can They Do?

I am extremely phobic of being touched, but at weddings the couple always kisses. Is it a requirement, or are there different things I can do? If so, what?

Question Asked: 6/12/2017

Wedding Date: 9/08/2018

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Linda Hamill Civil Marriage Celebrant

(40) · Melbourne and surrounding areas | Victoria Statewide - will travel

Posted: 4/07/2018

you can maybe high five or cuddle :-)

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Kaye Hartog

(2) · Adelaide and Surrounds

Posted: 8/02/2018

shake hand or high five is an option :)kissing is not a legal requirement :) 

Tim Kelly - Marriage Celebrant | Cairns Tropical Marriages

(41) · Cairns, Port Douglas, Mission Beach and the Tablelands but I am prepared to travel nationally

Posted: 11/01/2018

Kissing is not a requirement, merely symbolic. There are many options available to you. If your phobia allows, you can consider a hand fastening, with gloves. The hands are bound by a symbolic ribbon. The ribbon is then removed and placed, along with the gloves, in a bag, pouch or box. If this still makes you feel uncomfortable you could consider releasing butterflies or doves as a symbolic end note to your ceremony. You need to be comfortable and at ease throughout your entire ceremony. I do a hand ceremony too, if you are comfortable with holding hands. Feel free to contact me and I will gladly go into more detail.

Lisa Keevill

(4) · Newcastle, Hunter Valley, Southern Highlands & Surrounding Areas

Posted: 10/01/2018

You do not have to kiss at your wedding, but I have to say......................a kiss for a newly wedded couple is wonderful, beautiful, magical and memorable by all.

Treasured Ceremonies

(16) · Byron Bay to Ballina , North Coast NSW and Gold Coast QLD

Posted: 29/12/2017

Kissing is not a requirement. Some couples will not kiss in public due to their religious and ethical beliefs. 

And yes there are lots of alternatives. contact me via my website and I will provide some ideas

Kim O'Sullivan Celebrant

(12) · Wollongong, South Coast (as far as Nowra), Southern Highlands and Sydney

Posted: 12/12/2017

Kissing is not a legal requirement. The couple can hug, the celebrant can perform a hand fasting ceremony at that point. You can toast to each other or light a candle. Think outside the square and it can be your own pwesonal touch to the ceremony.

Sabine Erika Marriage Celebrant

(1) · Penrith/Blue Mountains

Posted: 12/12/2017

You do not need to kiss. I have seen people simply shake hands or clasp their hands together or simply smile at each other. There is no requirement. Sometimes you may have heard the celebrant say ýou may now kiss the bride', well you can change that when you are preparing your ceremony with the celebrant. You can leave it out altogether or substsitute another phrase or your liking.

Donelle Paul Civil Celebrant

(0) · Brisbane and Surroundings

Posted: 11/12/2017

Hi

If you don't with to kiss , maybe light a candle together .

Cherish The Memories - Jenny Ashen

(5) · Brisbane & Surroundings / Gold Coast/ Sunshine Coast / Toowoomba

Posted: 8/12/2017

Congratulations on your up coming Wedding.

I have had many couples not kiss for many reasons.

You do not have to do this ritual.

Maybe have something a bit more fun like High 5, Fist pump, exchange roses or something similar.

What ever you choose you will have a fantastic ceremony and day.

Forever Now Celebrancy Services

(5) · Perth & Surrounds / Avon Valley

Posted: 8/12/2017

There are some great gift giving ideas. The box of wine with love letters to share on your one year anniversary as you re-read what you wrote BEFORE you were married. A group blessing, ring warming, the list is endless. Or if you have your own way of showing affection, in some different symbol, why not get your celebrant to encorporate this into the ceremony. 

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