Wedding icks: Have you committed this party foul?

We asked, you answered – and wow, did you have some thoughts! That’s right, it’s the wedding icks. The “did that just happen?” moment that pops up at some weddings. We go through our favourites.

From rogue aisle walkers to roast-happy best men, the wedding icks came in strong and unfiltered. Whether you’re a bride, groom, guest, or just a seasoned wedding-goer, chances are you’ve seen at least a few of these toe-curling moments in action.

Do you have some strong opinions? We’re all ears! Check out our Instagram; we love the tea.

Some icks are obvious and etiquette-based, (late RSVPs, anyone? A tale as old as time!) some are deeply personal preferences (a flash mob is so 2007), and others feel very pointed and hilarious – like not serving dessert. 

Some of the icks are also a good reminder to leave some things in the past, did you know that wedding hashtags are out, dry weddings cause controversy, and a cash bar a black-tie event? No, thanks!

So, in the name of fun and all things wedding-related, we’ve rounded up the top wedding icks as voted by our Instagram community. If you see one of your own pet peeves below, you’re not alone. And if you’re guilty of one? Don’t worry… Your secret is safe with us.

Wedding icks

A seat at the table, the singles’ table

The year might be 2025, but for some people the singles table is still at weddings. A place where hope, awkwardness, and secondhand embarrassment don’t just meet, but they’re forced to have drinks together. 

While a singles table might be well-intentioned, throwing all the unattached guests into one corner of the room is a bit like an impromptu speed dating event and rarely results in romance. More often, it becomes a “Why am I here?” moment for everyone involved. Just seat people with friends or folks they’ll actually enjoy talking to. Let the flirting happen organically.

No booze, no good

We get it, there’s a big sober and sober-curious movement that’s making waves at the moment. As more people are picking the Heineken 0.0 or a kombucha over a champagne, that doesn’t mean that weddings should go down the road of 100% dry. 

For some guests, that’s an unexpected plot twist. If you’re skipping the booze for personal or cultural reasons, a heads-up is kind, and make sure you’ve got great food, mocktails, and entertainment to keep the party vibe alive.

Stand-up comedian

There is a big difference between a confident and organised MC and one who thinks they’re auditioning for their own Netflix special. When the MC’s jokes start dragging, the ‘roast’ goes too far, or the vibe turns from celebration to cringe, you’ve lost the crowd. A few laughs? Perfect. But keep it clean, keep it about the couple, and please – keep your ‘epic one-liners’ on the cutting room floor.

Song requests that are just for you

A floor-filler song is the one that gets even the ‘I don’t dance’ people on their feet. But a five-minute ballad reminiscent of your high school heartbreaks during peak party hour needs to stay in the headphones. So it’s time to know the difference between that long Death Cab for Cutie song versus belting out Sweet Caroline. Good songs don’t always equal good times.

Destination weddings

We have to say that these were voted in by our followers and not us! Because at Easy Weddings, we love a destination wedding. In fact, we recently explored if these are selfish (spoiler alert: they’re not!). But for some, the flights and accommodation can start to add up. So, it’s about being realistic about expectations rather than destination weddings being an ‘ick’.

Don’t think it’s an ick? We don’t either! Start planning your destination wedding!

#NoMoreHashtags #MakeItStop

Wake up, babe! It’s 2025! And apparently the wedding hashtags are so yesterday. Whilst they once reigned supreme, they’ve become a little bit of an eye-roll. Especially when they’re forced, hard to spell, or on every piece of signage. If you love them, go for it, but just know that your guests will still tag you if you don’t have one.

Bridal white for the non-bride

We’ve spent enough time on Reddit’s wedding shaming subreddits to know that the myth of the mother-in-law turning up in all white is based in fact. It’s the one unspoken rule of wedding guest fashion – leave white for the bride (even if she doesn’t wear white!). Someone always thinks their cream jumpsuit “doesn’t count.” Unless the couple has explicitly said otherwise, leave the ivory, eggshell, and off-white in the wardrobe. It’s their day, their outfit, and their moment.

Key life milestone announcements

Weddings are a huge celebration, and they feel like it. With family and friends all in one place, it might seem like the perfect time to share your own exciting news. But remember, the spotlight belongs to the couple. So if you’re planning a proposal or pregnancy reveal, hit pause and save it for next week. Let them have their moment… It only happens once.

Cha cha cha, conga!

How do these even start? As if they appear from nowhere, one moment at a wedding you’ll look around and suddenly three people are doing a conga and trying to rally some recruits. But it’s time to leave those stragglers in the past. Sorry to the conga-lovers of the world. They can break up the dancefloor and leave guests wondering what they just participated in. Unless the couple specifically requests it… maybe just… don’t.

Not RSVPing

It’s a tale as old as time, unfortunately! Someone ‘forgot’ to RSVP and just shows up anyway. Or someone does RSVP and is suddenly a ghost. It throws out the seating plan and puts catering into chaos. It’s the one job of the guests (besides leaving the white dress at home). Hit “yes” or “no” and the couple can plan in peace.

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Getting drunk before the reception

A champagne toast at the ceremony? A lovely addition. But three beers, two shots and… was that a Jägerbomb before the couple even enters? Yikes! No one wants to babysit a 31-year-old man who peaked prior to the party. Pace yourself. Weddings, like marriages, are a marathon, not a sprint.

Any other faux-pas we left off the list? We’ve explored lots of wedding topics, so check out our articles for some advice, trends, and dispelling a lot of myths.