What real brides would do differently if they could redo their weddings

They say your wedding day is the best day of your life. But sometimes, even the “best day ever” comes with a few what-ifs, could’ve-beens, and “why didn’t I…?” moments.

We all strive for perfection: dream dress, unforgettable photos, delicious food, seamless speeches. But no matter how much planning goes into it, sometimes hindsight has a loud voice (and a bit of sass).

We took a dive into the wild world of Reddit to find out the difficult question: If you could redo your wedding, what would you change? The responses were candid, hilarious, and surprisingly relatable. If you’re currently planning your big day, take note. These little nuggets of wisdom might save you a few regrets down the track.

“We should have just done a destination wedding.”

Sometimes less really is more. Many brides found themselves wishing they’d kept things simpler (and sunnier), opting for an intimate celebration abroad instead of a big, traditional event. Fewer guests, more relaxation, and a built-in honeymoon? Say no more.

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“Hire. A. Videographer”

You’ll hear it a million times, but here it is again photos are great, but video captures the moment in motion. And although it might seem like a cost at the time, it’s a lifetime of memories that can’t be repeated. And when else are you going to be able to see those killer dance moves from Aunty Linda again?

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“I should’ve picked a dress I loved” 

User AquasTonic allowed her mum to sway her a little too much when it came to the dress. “I let my mum pick it since she was paying, and I absolutely hated it. Don’t get me wrong, it was pretty but it wasn’t what I wanted.” PSA: The dress should make you feel amazing, not just keep the peace.

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“I wish I’d shown my makeup artist a reference again.”

For one user, the hair and makeup was not only rushed but it was also not exactly what they wanted. The fix? Schedule beauty prep earlier, and don’t be afraid to communicate exactly what it is that you’re after.

Hair and makeup is very important, make sure you find one that suits your vibe. Find one here.

“Our live band was amazing but I should’ve timed it better”

Live music is always a vibe, but one bride wished she’d delayed their start time. “They started playing during dinner and were done by dancing time! I totally underestimated how much everyone would want to dance to their set.”

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“My brother-in-law took our photos and I regret it!”

Sure he’s great with a camera, but here’s the thing – your family and friends aren’t wedding photographers. One Redditor, stereotypicalaries, learned the hard way that sometimes DIY isn’t the way to go. “I wish I hadn’t worried about hurting his feelings and just hired a professional.”

“If I could go back in time I would’ve saved $15k”

We’re dying to know a little more about this Redditor’s frustration.

“I wish I’d slowed down and soaked it all in.”

The day flies by. Multiple brides said they barely remember it. It was a whirlwind of nerves, logistics, and hugs. Take mental snapshots, breathe deeply, and sneak a few quiet moments with your partner to make it feel real.

“I would’ve eloped.”

Even brides who had small weddings said they’d redo it all with a quiet elopement. “We have a great marriage and an amazing honeymoon, but the wedding day itself was stressful. I wish we had just eloped and saved the money (and the anxiety).”

So, what have we learned?

Weddings are beautiful, chaotic, emotional, expensive, and unforgettable… even when things go wrong. But if there’s one thing these Reddit brides made clear, it’s this: focus on what truly matters to you. Whether it’s hiring a photographer, choosing your dream dress, or skipping tradition altogether—your day, your way.

And if you do make a mistake? Just remember: It makes for a great Reddit post later.