Most brides will try to get fit and trim in the lead up to their wedding, in the hopes of looking their very best for their wedding.
Some will use this motivation to great success and end up slimmer, leaner and hotter than they’ve ever been before. But most regular people will try with the best of intentions, but life and all of its stresses will get in their way of loving wedding bod, leaving some brides feeling a little self-conscious on their day instead.
So let’s take another tactic, and instead of shredding for the wedding, just learn to love and accept the body you have. Our way involves no strenuous exercise, no dietary restrictions, all the cheese and chocolate you want and plenty of sitting on the couch streaming television or shopping online.
At Easy Weddings our favourite brides are happy brides, so we have compiled a list of tips to help you get some healthy self-love for your (already gorgeous) bod in your wedding dress.
Accentuate the bits you like
Sit down with a cup of tea or a glass of wine and make a list of the features about yourself that you like. Everyone has some of these. It might be your eyes or your smile, your healthy flowing hair, your dainty hands, voluptuous bosom, banging hips or smoking booty. You might have great shoulders, love the way your back looks, or have legs for days. You might love your feet.
Think hard and you will be sure to find something. If however, you are struggling with this, then get a close friend, or several of them, and recruit them for this task. Often we are overly critical of ourselves but our friends will be both honest and kind about telling us what our best features are.
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Once you have worked out at least one feature you like, do some research and work out the best ways to highlight this asset. Most of you will likely have more than one to play up.
Wedding dresses are wonderful in many ways, and one of the best ones is they can be custom made exactly for you and can showcase the areas that you like.
If you like your hands or feet, make sure that you get a manicure and pedicure, and also adorn them well with jewellery that you love. Wear stunning open-toed shoes, and have a dress that allows your little toes to peep out.
If you like your smile, pay extra attention to it in the lead-up to your big day. Get your teeth fixed and whitened so that you can show them off.
If you like your shoulders, consider a halter neck dress. If you like your bosom, play this up instead.
Talk to your professionals
If you know that your best smile is more your natural and candid one, rather than the posed one, ask your photographer to take shots that highlight this. If there is anything you are self-conscious about, maybe word up your photography so that they know to always get your good side.
Talk to a make-up artist and hairstylist about the best ways to play up your favourite features. What hairstyle or colour will accentuate your face, what colours will make your eyes pop or your cheekbones look like they can cut glass?
Talk to your dress designer about what you like and also what you are more concerned about, and they will be able to recommend a design that flatters you best and also make adjustments to help you even further in loving wedding bod.
You may have always had your heart set on a mermaid skirt gown, but when it comes to trying one on, find it really doesn’t suit your shape. Because most women have never worn a dress quite like a wedding gown before, you may be surprised by what flatters you and what doesn’t. Often the dress that looks the least likely on the rack, will be the one that makes you happiest once it’s on.
Be open to trying on different things, and also to taking recommendations from your dressmaker. It helps if you don’t go into the fitting too set in your mind, and be willing to try some variety, especially when it is recommended by professionals who dress women every day.
Dress to flatter the bits you are self-conscious about
While you are accentuating the areas you like, consider ways to flatter (or hide) the bits you are more concerned about. If you don’t like your shoulders or upper arms, consider a jacket, shawl or cap sleeves, or cover areas with some lace. If you are self-conscious about your stomach, an empire line, A-frame or fit and flare shape skirt can be more flattering.
There is greater variety in dress design than ever before, and you can use this to your advantage. Consider a tea-length dress, or two pieces, or something with pockets. Find an era in history that really flatters your shape, and then have this be the theme of your wedding day.
Dress to suit your personal style and to feel comfortable
You might think that wearing a dress that’s too tight, or wearing undergarments that suck you in, will make you look better, but chances are, they won’t. On the most important (and probably longest) day of your life, you will be much happier if you dress in something that makes you feel comfortable in your own skin.
If you are not a traditional bride or a traditional shape, then use fashion to play up what you want. Choose a dress that is a different length, or with sleeves, or add a clever, tailored jacket. Add colour to brings people’s eyes to where you would rather have them be. Wear accessories that make you feel attractive, comfortable and happy. Ignore conservative rules of what you think a bride should look like, and showcase what is best about you.
Practice self-love and self-compassion
True acceptance of yourself and all your foibles might take a little longer than this article, but there are some wonderful truths you can tell yourself which will get you on the right track.
Instead of thinking of your body as something to look at, consider what it does every day. Think about how it has brought you through your whole life, and honour it for being strong and healthy, rather than thinking of it as an ornament.
Think of the women around you that you admire, such as your mother, sisters or friends. What is it exactly that you most admire about them? When you picture them, or anyone that you love, do you think of their individual body features? No, you just think of them with love and admiration. And on your wedding day, that is exactly how they will see you too.
Think about other brides you have seen on their wedding day. More than anything the guests remember brides who are comfortable and happy on their day and in their outfit. If you choose a style that doesn’t flatter you, or that you don’t feel comfortable in, then this feeling will be one of your focal memories of your day. Your guests may sense your discomfort or unhappiness.
Choose an outfit that plays to your strengths and weaknesses, and that fits in with your personal style, not what you thought a bride should be. The only things a bride needs to be beautiful is happy and in love; these are your greatest assets and are the key to loving wedding bod in your wedding dress (and every day after!)
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