So, you’re about to tie the knot, and the thought of writing your wedding vows has you more than a little intimidated. Fear not. Chantal Fernando, romance novelist and a woman who’s no stranger to love stories, is here to share her best wedding vow tips.
Having penned steamy, swoon-worthy bestsellers like “Dragon’s Lair” and “Maybe This Time,” and currently on her own journey to the altar (not to mention having been a key witness to her sister’s “I dos”), Chantal’s got the inside scoop on crafting vows that’ll make your heart sing without making your guests cringe.
Tailor your vows
Chantal kicks things off with a reminder that when it comes to vows, it’s all about you and your partner: “Every couple is different,” she says, advocating for a bespoke approach to vow writing. If you’re someone who prefers to keep things under wraps, take a leaf out of her book: “I wouldn’t be airing everything in my vows. I’d keep them sweet, short, and meaningful.” It’s about crafting vows that resonate with your relationship’s unique rhythm, ensuring they’re a hit with your audience without oversharing.
Bring out your inner romantic
Forget the cookie-cutter romance; Chantal encourages couples to dive deep into their own love story. “Abandon stereotypes and think about what is romantic to the both of you (not others),” she advises. This means mining your relationship for those golden moments that truly define your bond. “Think of your favourite moments together – what made them so special?” she suggests, offering a path to vows that are not only personal but profoundly touching.
Avoid the clichés
Chantal’s journey through the landscapes of love and commitment has equipped her with a keen eye for the pitfalls of vow writing. “Too many clichés and quotes. Be original and genuine,” she cautions, pushing for authenticity over well-trodden paths. And when it comes to length and humour, she’s just as candid: “Less is more. Streamline vows so they aren’t too long, and the words that you choose, make them count.” As for comedy? “Don’t try and be funny if you aren’t funny – vows do not need to get laughs.”
Dodge writer’s block like a professional
For those staring down the blank page with dread, Chantal offers a lifeline. “Write notes from the time you are engaged – you can then filter through when it comes to writing out the vows,” she shares, presenting a practical approach to gathering thoughts and emotions. And if the words still won’t flow? “Step away from them and do another task, go for a walk, etc – don’t force it,” she recommends, advocating for breaks to reignite creativity.
More about Chantal
Beyond the pages of her novels, Chantal Fernando embraces life in Western Australia with her three sons and family. She’s not just about crafting stories but also about connecting with her readers. Whether you’re seeking inspiration or just a fan of romance, she’s open for a chat, ready to share more of her journey and insights.
In essence, Chantal Fernando’s take on vow writing is like having a heart-to-heart with a friend who’s seen it all. By focusing on what makes your relationship tick, avoiding the common clichés, and embracing your own narrative, you can create vows that are not just words but a reflection of your love. So, take a deep breath, pick up that pen, and let your heart do the talking.
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