Is your AI bridesmaid lying to you?

AI can be a brilliant planning sidekick… until it starts confidently telling you things that are, well, not quite true. If you have ever asked a bot for wedding advice and thought, “Hmm… that doesn’t feel right,” you are not imagining it.

AI gets things wrong. Sometimes a little wrong, sometimes wildly wrong, sometimes wrong in a way that makes you question everything you have ever typed into a chat window.

Here is how to spot the fibs, avoid the fluff and make sure your digital helper is actually helping.

First, why AI lies in the first place

Let us clear this up. AI does not lie with malicious intent. It lies because it desperately wants to be useful. It will fill in gaps, guess, overconfidently invent details and phrase things as if they are absolute fact, even when it is just having a go.

This is called hallucinating. It sounds whimsical until you are sitting there with a fake venue recommendation, a made-up legal requirement or instructions for a planning step that does not exist in Australia.

AI is not a wedding planner. It is a pattern reader. It knows how wedding content usually looks and sounds, and sometimes it prioritises sounding right over being right.

The three biggest red flags your AI assistant is fibbing

AI lies in surprisingly predictable ways. Once you know what to look for, you can spot it a mile off.

1. The advice sounds generic enough to apply to any wedding on earth. If the response reads like a Pinterest caption, be cautious. If you ask for weather backup plans for Byron Bay and it gives you something that sounds like it was written for a Scottish castle, that is AI autopiloting. You want specifics. Locality. Real world context. Anything less is fluff.

2. It confidently states a rule or law that does not exist. This is where people get caught out. Some AI tools will invent government requirements, visa rules, or ceremony laws that are completely wrong for your state or country. If it sounds official, always double-check with a real source, like your celebrant, venue or the actual government website.

3. It describes a venue or supplier you cannot find anywhere. If a bot tells you there is a private winery with accommodation, alpacas and ocean views in inner Melbourne, that venue does not exist. AI loves to combine features it has seen online into one impressive sounding Franken venue. If you cannot Google it, it is not real.

The golden rule: AI is great at structure, terrible at facts

This is the easiest way to keep yourself safe.

• Use AI for formatting, editing your ideas, sparking inspiration and helping you structure your thoughts.
• Do not use AI to check laws, quote prices, confirm availability, research your specific state’s requirements, or make bookings.
• Think of it as the friend who is excellent at brainstorming but useless at practical life admin.

How to ask questions so AI cannot go rogue

Half the battle with AI is asking the right thing. Bad prompts lead to bad information. Good prompts force it to behave.

Here are the prompts that keep it honest:

“Please only use information confirmed on official Australian government or legal celebrant websites. If something is unclear, tell me you are not sure.” This stops it inventing ceremony rules that do not exist.

“Do not create or infer locations. Only use real, existing places and list your sources.” This removes all the fantasy château wedding farms from thin air.

“Give me three suggestions that fit within the real world constraints of location, budget and guest count. If you cannot find suitable examples, say so.” This stops the bot from padding an answer with fake options.

“Do not generalise. Be specific to my situation.” This makes it work harder to personalise the advice instead of falling back on stock phrases.

If it still starts being dramatic with confidence, say, “Are you sure?” Bots hate that question and they will immediately retract, recheck and correct themselves.

The wedding topics AI consistently gets wrong

Some categories are simply not its strength. If your question sits in one of these buckets, take its answers with a generous pinch of salt.

• Legal requirements. AI gets marriage laws wrong all the time. In Australia, every state has slightly different rules, and bots trained on international data tend to merge them all together. Touch base with your celebrant instead.
• Guest dynamics and etiquette. AI does not know your family and friends. It does not understand that Uncle Shane is a delight until the second Aperol. It will give neat, polite etiquette responses that may not match your actual reality. Good etiquette advice needs human nuance.
• Cultural traditions. Bots often describe cultural wedding traditions using outdated or generalised language that does not reflect real lived experience. Always check with someone who actually practises that tradition.
• Vendor pricing. AI cannot access real time pricing. It will guess. Sometimes wildly. Always get quotes from actual suppliers.

When AI is incredibly useful

This is the fun part. AI shines in the softer, more creative aspects of planning.

It is brilliant for:

• Helping you write speeches, vows, signage and invitations.
• Turning dot points into polished paragraphs.
• Brainstorming ceremony ideas or themes.
• Drafting polite messages for tricky situations.
• Shortlisting ideas you can then research properly.
• Acting as a sounding board for your overwhelm.

It removes the friction from starting. It gives you language when your brain is tired. It can bring clarity to chaotic planning.

Just keep it in its lane.

How to fact check your AI wedding advice without losing your mind

You do not need to become a detective. A two step approach is enough.

Step one: Google the main claim. If you cannot find anything on a government, venue or supplier website that matches, assume the bot made it up.

Step two: Ask a real human. Your celebrant, planner, photographer or venue manager will know the actual answer in ten seconds.

You do not need to re-fact-check the entire internet. Just the bits that could derail your plans if they were wrong.

Our team at Easy Weddings has decades of conversations, celebrations and problem-solving under its belt, which means we have a pretty grounded sense of what actually happens at real weddings. We are make sure you have the human context, the practical insight and the steady guidance that keeps everything running smoothly. We are simply here to help.