I have asked someone to be in my bridal party, but I regret it. How do I rescind my offer?

Easy Weddings Expert

Hi Candace, thanks so much for your question. This is such a tough situation to be in, but we hope we can help. It's a really tricky situation, but essentially I think if you asked someone to be part of your bridal party and would now like to rescind your offer, think about whether or not you wish to save that friendship or if you are happy to let it deteriorate. Because if you decide to let your bridal party member go, and "fire" them, then they may resent you and the whole wedding. You could, however, ask that you swap their role to another? For example, if it were a bridesmaid, you could ask her to be your hen's party planner or an usher instead, or the ring bearer or something else. The main issue here is, how do you ask her without ruining what you have? So I think the main issue is ensuring that you let them down as gently as possible, and explain why you are doing this so that they can understand. They may even try to change your mind, so ensure this is what you really want before beginning. Just be as honest as you can with them and tell them why you have decided this so that they aren't caught off guard and shocked by what has happened. This is one of the reasons we suggest waiting until closer to the wedding to choose who is in your bridal party. A lot of people get caught up in the excitement of becoming engaged and focus too much on deciding on their bridal party ASAP, rather than enjoying the fact that they are engaged and that they should be focused on that rather than who is going to be in their bridal party.