Struggling to know who should be giving a speech and what each speech should contain so we are not all repeating each other. ??
Question Asked: 5/08/2018
Wedding Date: 9/08/2018
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Speeche's.....Usually The Groom,Best-Man,Parents Of The Groom & Then The Bride....U Carn't Have A Format @Every Wedding But Only The MC Has The Format Only....
Speeches are a personal preference. Depending on traditions, the general speeches come from the father/mother of the groom, father/mother of the bride, best man and the groom himself!
Hi there,
Generally, these are the people who would give a speech in the following order (but you can change it up to suit your reception!) :
1. Parents of the newlyweds
2. Maind of Honor
3. Best Man
4. Groom
Traditionally, the bride does not speak - however times are changing! Sometimes a joint speech is a good option, or the bride could do her own speech.
Kind regards,
Sofie Bozzetti
Yes this is a tough one.
Traditionally Both Fathers (of Bride and Groom) will give a speech.
The Maid of Honour, The Best man and then the couple or the Groom. (and generally in this order)
Fathers would say something about their child, something loving, proud etc and welcome the other half into the family.
Maid of honour will talk about you and your friendship and something special on a friendship level and bring up the story of how you and your husband to be met, and she saw it....etc. And the Best man would do the same for the Groom.
And the couple; you or your husband will generally cover all the thank you's etc and say something nice about each other. Try to lmit everyone to a max of 5 mins. Cause even when you do this it will tend to go a bit longer.
Gooduck
Each wedding is unique, and should be treated as such.
The main thing about speeches is to make sure they accurately represent what your wedding is about. If you're a light hearted happy couple, make sure to have people that will share some entertaining stories. If your wedding is more serious & traditional, then some more heartfelt speeches might be the best option.
I've seen weddings with only a couple of speeches, and weddings with a whole bunch, some long, some short. There's no right and wrong, as long as it suits what you're about as a couple, and what's important to you on your big day.
There are no specific rules about who can get involved in the speeches, but traditionally it's the fathers of the bride and groom, the best man and then the groom. However I've done plenty of weddings where others may also like to say something, such as mother of the bride and groom, maid of honour and also other members of the bridal party.
It's not a bad idea to get together beforehand to discuss what might be said by various parties so that they're not overlapping too, just keep it secret from the bride and groom so that any surprises are not spoilt.
It's also recommended to keep speeches short and to the point. Throw in a joke or two and keep it light. Guests quickly get bored if speeches ramble on too much about irrelevant things, and bring down the mood of the party. Long speeches will also interfere with the timing as they may hold up the kitchen and other formalities that need to be done.
Generally there will be 4 to 6 speeches and quite often they can be seperated between entree and main course or all after main course. It's quite common for the parents to present their speeches during entree and mains and then the bridal party after main course, as to not interrupt food service.
The order of speeches is generally as follows, however can be changed and presented in any order to suit your needs.
Brides Parents Speech and toast to Newlyweds
Grooms Parents Speech and toast to Newlyweds
Groom/s and or Bride/s to respond to toast and toast Bridal Party
Brides Speech
Best Man or Maid/Matron of Honor to respond on behalf of Bridal Party
Bridesmaids of Speech
Groomsmen Speech
Other Speeches
Would you like MC to invite guests to make a Speech?
Hi!
Speeches are always the most daunting part of the day/evening, but need not be.
Traditionally, the speeches are in order of Father of the Bride, Best Man and lastly the groom and or the bride.
In between, you can have other members of the Bridal party and or guests of your choice.
As to what is contained in each speech, I always letting the speaker speak from their heart. This is their one opportunity to deliver words from their heart (especially the parents) and you would never want to miss out on something that you will hear and see for many years to come, by guiding what should be said. You will rarely find (unless they google 'speeches' and 'jokes' which everyone has heard before!) that two speeches are the same.
When you limit each to about 5 mins each, what will be crammed in will be their memories to share, which will all be individual.
Choose those who are the most important for you to deliver the speeches, then let them speak from their heart.
Much love and happiness.
Maria Chine
Maria Chine'
Master of Ceremonies
Hi there, sorry about the delay!
That's a huge question, and definitely an aspect of the reception that can be daunting. I've seen this work really well:
1) The MC welcomes the bridal party at the start of the reception
2) After dinner, the parents make a speech (traditionally it's the father of the bride)
3) Followed by the best man
4) Followed by the newlyweds.
This works nicely because the newlyweds' speech will run smoothly into the first dance.
Regarding the contents of the speeches:
- The parents might talk about their son or daughter and how they saw the newlyweds' relationship develop.
- The best man would compliment the bride and bridesmaids, talk about the groom, then propose a toast.
- The newlyweds might say something heartfelt about each other and their parents, then thank the guests for their presence, particularly if people have travelled long distances.
Personally, I'd try to keep the speeches reasonably short. For some people, brevity is just what they're after when speaking in front of an audience. Others can waffle a bit! Work out who you'd like to speak, how much time you have for speeches (or want to devote to speeches), and divide that among your speakers. Give people definite time limits, though.
I hope this helps!
Bradley Wood
Polysonic Music
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Speeches should come from the heart and be very personal so its usually parents, best man, matron of honour and Bride or Groom or both.