How should I word a wedding invitation asking guests to pay for their own meal?

Hi, 

we totally understand and there are a few ideas out there!

EXAMPLE 01

Gifts are simply not a-fair
as for our wedding day -
we ask instead you post a-fare...

A $X per guest contribution, enclosed with RSVP, will get us underway! 

EXAMPLE 02

The home renos are done,

we have all the essentials,

there is no need for more wedding gifts.

However, a kind contribution of $X to your dinner for the night would help us greatly.

BSB : 000000

ACC: 000000000

Hope this helps!

Rachel McCarthy

Hey there:)

I have created a few invitations in the past where the couple has made this request. 

In one of my couple's invitations, they included a menu where you could pre-order your dinner on the RSVP card. Their wording was:

"As most people would normally have a wishing well or gift table, we are requesting something different!

Since we are combining two households into one, we have no need for anything.

Your gift to us is just your presence and for you to purchase your own meal.

We have included a menu for the night and would appreciate if you could please pre-order when you RSVP.

This will make the night run smoothly. If any issues arise regarding the meals or accommodation, please let us know and we will help in any way possible."

If it's just a standard cost per head, & guests can't choose what they want ahead of time, you can amend it to something along the lines of "we respectfully ask for a contribution of $x per head for your meal" & either provide your bank details or ask for cash on the night.

Good luck and let me know if you would like help putting something together for your invites :)

Cheers,
Lava @LavaStationery

www.lavastationery.com.au
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