Who writes the vows? Do we say them or have to repeat after the celebrant?

Question Asked: 11/12/2017

Wedding Date: 9/08/2018

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Debra Hodge - Wedding Celebrant

(0) · Far North Coast NSW and Gold Coast Region

Posted: 14/02/2018

This is totally up to the couple.

You can write them, or you can use some your Celebrant, or Google has supplied

You can read them from a prompt card, or repeat after your Celebrant.

I encourage couples to say their vows themselves, as repeating takes some of the special feeling away I feel.

It sounds like you are being prompted to say these amazing things to each other.

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Kaye Hartog

(2) · Adelaide and Surrounds

Posted: 7/02/2018

There are certain legal words that every couple must say to each other, these can be repeated after the celebrant or couples can use cue cards, the legal words are exchanged before personal vows. 

TK Celebrancy

(6) · Gold Coast/Tweed Heads, Brisbane & Surroundings

Posted: 6/02/2018

The couple can write their own vows. There is one set of compulsory vows that must be said during the ceremony.

The Celebrant will usually give you lots of ideas and examples, from there, with guidance from you, the Celebrant will come up with a script which can be edited and added to by you, until you are happy with the final product.

You don't have to repeat the vows, sometimes the couple write their own and will speak personally from the heart.

Lisa Keevill

(4) · Newcastle, Hunter Valley, Southern Highlands & Surrounding Areas

Posted: 31/01/2018

I prepare the legal vows and you can add to them. I am yet to find a couple who can rehearse their vows verbatim - best to let me help you - I say and you repeat :)

Tim Kelly - Marriage Celebrant + MC

(54) · Cairns, Port Douglas, Mission Beach and the Tablelands but I am prepared to travel nationally

Posted: 11/01/2018

The official vows, required by law, are usually spoken in the read and repeat fashion. I always encourage my couples to write their own personal vows to add after the official ones and will offer advice if they are having problems. No-one can write your vows for you, but if it really is an obstacle for you then your celebrant should have a collection of vows for you. You can use them as inspiration or, failing that, if it really is too difficult or stressful, you can choose a version that suits you best.

Marina Payne Celebrancy

(19) · Yarra Valley and all of Melbourne

Posted: 8/01/2018

Hi, the first part of your vows are the legal content and I always put that in RED for my couples so that they know, then the rest is up to you. I give my couples a ten page list of prewritten vows and tell them they can pick one or mix them up one line from here and another from there but it is so personal and lovely if you are able to write your own vows. There are lots of ideas on Pinterest as well to get you started. Whether you read them from a booklet or repeat after the Celebrant it is entirely up to you. Good luck.

Treasured Ceremonies

(18) · Byron Bay to Ballina , North Coast NSW and Gold Coast QLD

Posted: 29/12/2017

You will write the vows or choose the vows from a list, The celebrant should have a library and you can google.

There are many options for delivery, either from a prompt card, copied phrase by phrase prompted by the celebrant,

I did have one bride you read hers from her iphone - she had always wanted to do that

John De Chiera

(1) · Perth + Margaret River - WA

Posted: 29/12/2017

With consultation with your celebrant you come up with the vows you as a couple want to use.The celebrant can make suggestions what to use.These can either be typed by the celebrant or the couple to be used on your wedding day.

The vows can be read by the celebrant out loud and then repeated by the couple or the couple can read them themselves from a script or memorise.

Resonant Celebrancy Services

(0) · Perth and Surroundings

Posted: 13/12/2017

The legal vows are mandatory under Australia's Marriage Act 1961 and are usually repeated after the celebrant to ensure the wording is spoken correctly. (I call upon the persons here present to witnes that I <Bride/Groom> to be my lawful wedded <wife/husband). These are the minimum vows that must be said. Aside from this you may add your own personalized vows, written either by yourselves or with assistance from your celebrant. I have a large list of vows that couples can use, either as a whole, to use parts of several or to get ideas. 

 

Kim O'Sullivan Celebrant

(15) · Wollongong, South Coast (as far as Nowra), Southern Highlands and Sydney

Posted: 12/12/2017

Hi

There are legal vows which you repeat after the celebrant.

You can write your oiwn personal vows too. I can assist you with that.

A bride and groom of mine wrote their own personal vows in a beautiful little book and read from the vow book.

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