Question Asked: 31/05/2018
Wedding Date: 9/08/2018
Answered by: 7 Experts
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(16) · Byron Bay to Ballina , North Coast NSW and Gold Coast QLD
Posted: 3/08/2018
There is a legal minimum age and then there is an age at which you are mature enough to realise what you are entering into. Marriage is the union of two people to the exclusion of all others and entered into for life. Putting age aside are you ready for marriage ?
You have to be 18 years of age to be married.
If a couple only 1 is of 18 years old and the other younger, a court consent has to be obtained.
If both are over 18 , sit down with your parents and ask them to explain, parents usually have your interest at heart, try to listen and meet in the middle.
It would be a shame and sad if your parents were not present at this moment of greatness in your life , patience is a virtue, and while you are waiting use the time to bond closer with your parents together with your financee, and you get to save more money for your future .
Best wishes, to you
Cheers
Angela
(2) · Mid North Coast / Lower North Coast and surrounding areas
Posted: 8/06/2018
I am assuming that you are over the age of 18 years, if so then you legally have the right to make your own decision.
This is a very difficult question and no simple answer supplied by someone who does not know you personally could or should be the sole reason you choose to marry or not. Often your parents are only looking after your best interests. Have you asked why they think you are too young to marry?
As a parent I would like to think that I have raised my children in such a way that they are able to make such a life changing desision after weighing up all the information. Things I wouId have asked them to consider would include : length of time you have known your future partner, are you in a financial state to move out pay all the necessary bills as well as start a family, how stable is your relationship, how does his parents feel about the upcoming wedding?
There are other alternatives to a hasty wedding. Have you considered becoming engaged and then see how the relationship develops? In theory you only get one opportunity to plan your dream wedding take your time plan, dream and evolve your relationship. In short marriage is a long term commitment you must both feel ready to commit to each other and no one else.
There are many aspects to marriage no matter the age of the couple. Whilst entering married life is a matter of personal choice, it is wise to consider those who have our best interests at stake, particularly parents. I suggest you reflect honestly on your reasoning and desires to marry, perhaps journal your thoughts and ideas to reveal them on paper. And rather than seek a number of opinions which may be slanted, seek unbiased, professional guidance in the process of your decision-making. There are many organisations available to help you consider your decision, including free Government sites. Speaking of which, even the Attorney General's Department insists that every Celebrant provide a booklet to couples who plan to marry. No matter anyone's age, reflection and support in deciding to marry are wise actions to take. wishing you the very best in your decision.
That is a very difficult question for a Celebrant to answer as it is such a personal point of view. Perhaps compromise by both parties would be wise - alternatively I suggest you seek the advice a professional counsellor who may be able to assist with a favourable outcome for all. There are many available the various organisations which are cost effective & through Government websites.
I hope this assists you in some way.
Warm wishes, Janine Gilland - Civil Marriage Celebrant.
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Your age should not be the deciding question as to whether you should get married or not.
If you are over the age of 18 it is of course your decision. The real question is “are you ready to make a lifelong commitment to your partner, and are they ready to make that commitment to you”, because that is basically what you are doing when entering into marriage.
Some people are ready when they are 18 others not until later in life, if you feel that you are both ready to take on that commitment then by all means go ahead and get married.
It is always nice if your parents are agreeable so try to talk to them and tell them the reasons why you feel you are ready for this, if they realise you are serious about getting married and have thought it through then they may be more open to the marriage.