How to include our mums in our wedding

Hi there, would love some different ideas of how we can each include our mums at our wedding, maybe something non-traditional but meaningful. Thank you

Jasmine

Question Asked: 8/05/2023

Wedding Date: 3/11/2024

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Treasured Ceremonies

(18) · Byron Bay to Ballina , North Coast NSW and Gold Coast QLD

Posted: 19/09/2023

yes, it is a lovely idea to include family and there are hundreds of ways to do that.
Talk to your celeberant and what options are comfrotable with you

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A Life Celebrant - Lou Szymkow

(8) · South Coast NSW

Posted: 14/06/2023

Let your imagination be the guide, but here are just some possibilities:

 

  • Include Mum/s in planning
  • They can be welcomers or ushers
  • Perform all or part of the Ceremony in conjunction with the Celebrant.
  • Enter in procession before the wedding party.
  • Present them with roses or another gift of appreciation at the start.
  • Be your legal witnesses
  • Perform a reading or read a personal letter during the ceremony.
  • Include them in a ritual such as blessing of hands, or handfasting’s
  • Mums can escort you both down the aisle with or without Dad.
  • Wear some of Mum’s jewellery or something from her wedding.
  • Include her favourite flowers or material in decorations.
  • Allow Mum/s to design or create wedding stationery or table dressings.
  • Be the ring holders
  • Hold the Bridal bouquet.
  • Make the Pronouncement

    At the Reception, Mums could:

    • Greet you at the door with a salt bread & wine ritual
    • Offer a speech
    • Create a photo collage of your life
    • Take part in a family quiz 
    • carry in or serve the cake
    • dance
    Marriage Celebrant Above and Beyond

    (18) · Adelaide and Regional Areas

    Posted: 21/05/2023

    I think that if your two Mother's are at your ceremony, why not have them as your legal witnesses (dont have one without the other though).

    Also, perhaps your Mum's could be your ring bearers - they would love that I feel sure.

    One more suggestion - if you are having a Wedding Reading, have your Mum's reading half each.

    Have fun  Jan 

    Journey With Me

    (2) · Melbourne & Surrounding Areas. Located in Bonbeach.

    Posted: 15/05/2023

    Hello,

    Mums have so many roles they can play, endless opportunites to be involved.

    They could talk about the one piece of advice they gave you that got you here.

    They could show a photo of you at any age that personifies you now.

    They could read a list of things they love about your partner and the wishes for your marriage.

    They could talk through traditions for your family,

    If more fun is rewuired they could do an on the spot quiz of your partner.

    A good celebrant should understand what you are looking for and advise accordingly.

    Make it exactly what you want,

    Celebrate with Deb

    (29) · Victoria

    Posted: 11/05/2023

    It's lovely to want to include your mothers in your ceremony. I agree with others here that they could be Legal witnesses for you both.  A reading or peom about marriage is often read by a mother. They could hold and present your rings when required.  But my favourite would be, mothers being flowerladies and arriving /walking down the aisle together sprinkling petals before you.

    A fun way / tongue in cheek, would be a battle of best qualities of their child.  eg; my son will constantly charm your daughter, my daughter will always be sweet (in public),  my son will love your daughter forever, my daughter will love your son forever & a day....

    Most mothers are a very important part of your lives and should be included some how.  Good Luck with your planning, let me know if I can help you in any way.  Sincerely, Deb

    Jane Dawson Celebrancy

    (13) · Mid and Lower North Coast, Sydney

    Posted: 9/05/2023

    Your mum could walk you down the aisle with your dad.

    You could ask her to hold your flowers when you reach the front.

    Mum, could hold the rings or do a reading/poem.

    It's lovely for your mum to walk down the aisle with your siblings, to make an entrance and make her feel special and included.

    Simple Ceremonies

    (14) · New South Wales

    Posted: 9/05/2023

    Great question and such a lovely  thing to have the mums involved in the ceremony. 

    One of my favourite suggestions is to have the mums hold a ring each. They then come forward at the apprporiate moment and hand their son/daughters ring to their new son/daughter-in-law, or whichever way your wish to do it. Its a  great moment between the 3 of you and a fabulous photo opportunity.  :))

    Heartlight Celebrant

    (1) · Daylesford / Macedon Ranges, Geelong and Great Ocean Road

    Posted: 9/05/2023

    Mums can witness your marriage, walk you down the aisle, do a reading or prayer, be part of rituals and be part of the planning.

    Dan Ford Celebrant & MC

    (96) · Sunshine Coast / Noosa / Brisbane

    Posted: 9/05/2023

    Hello Brides!, 

                             I love this question! What a lot of my couples do to include their Mum's is to have their Mum's as Official Witness!  This is a super-sweet way to include your mum because: She's all dressed up, You will get some beautiful pics together signing the official paperwork, you get a hug from her first....... and this ALWAYS, even sweeter if you don't tell her (them / both Mum's), and make it a surprise during the ceremony!!


    Dan Ford Celebrant & MC. X

    Patricia Greaves

    (6) · Brisbane & Surrounding Areas

    Posted: 9/05/2023

    1. You can have your mother included in the planning.
    2. You could have both your mother and father walk you down the aisle.
    3. Wear some of her jewlery
    4. If she still have a keepsake from her wedding include that in your wedding eg: if she still has maybe a horseshoe that she carried down the aisle then you carry it too down the aisle at your wedding.
    5. You could have a piece of her wedding gown sewn into your gown.
    6. Include her favourate flowers in your decorating
    7. If she has a special talent, eg crafting get her to design or create your wedding invitations / placecards and thank you cards.

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