Do any modern couples still include the opportunity to object during a wedding ceremony?

Curious about this and how it would be done well.

Question Asked: 9/02/2021 Wedding Date: 9/08/2018


Most Helpful Response

Chris White Celebrant

Canberra and surrounding Region

(5) Posted: 4/06/2022

I cant recall when I last went to a wedding that included this, and I have never been asked to include.  If asked I would probably clarify the reason for including, and question if it is about injecting a sense of nostalgia or humour (beware the drunk uncle), as there are other ways to do this. Noting the DoNLIM, Monitum and Legal Vows really cover the 'need' for an objection element.  It is very moot, and unnecessary but hey if the couple want it then it is not hard to include.   I would probably note something like "Tina and John have told me they have no reason that they cant be married here today, and signed legal docs to attest this, so if any one here has reason to suggest otherwise and cut this short and have us head straight to the bar while Tina and John head to the courtroom for falsifying a legal document now is the time ......"  :)  

(6) Posted: 15/12/2021

The question "Does anyone object?" is not required under the Marriage Act in Australia but is still used in some churches and in other countries. It dates back to an era when couples separated without divorce (Middle Ages) and chose another partner. 

It is simply not required under law and has no legal standing but can be included if you wish.

Similarly, the question and answer of vows (Do you take this person to be...) soliciting an "I Do" response occurs only in religious ceremonies and in the movies and so is NOT required in Civil Ceremonies where the couple must state their vows e.g. "I call upon everyone here to witness that I <name> take <name> to be my lawful wedded spouse etc" however most couples like to say "I do" and so I usually throw in a fun question such as:

"Do you promise to stack the dishwasher properly,  to like your partners' FB posts, and give or receive a massage at least once a month?"

Your wedding can be FUN if you want it to be


(3) Posted: 16/08/2021

Not at any ceremonies that I have perform d.

Angela


Kerrie Boag Celebrant

Perth & Surroundings

(9) Posted: 28/05/2021

This question has no legal standing in modern day and is now done with the couple signing a legal document called the 'Notice of Intented marriage', stating they meet all legal requirements according to Australian law.  

They also are required to sign a 'Declaration of no legal impediment' prior to the ceremony as confirmation of all legal requirements. 

All this is something I discuss with my couple in full.  It is important that they are aware of the need for honesty and acuracy and the penality should they not be. 


(20) Posted: 7/04/2021

I've never been asked to include this in a ceremony but it certainly could be. Personally, I would want to be sure, however, that no one was actually going to object! Purely to avoid a potentially difficult social situation. 


Mitchell Coulthard - Celebrant

Adelaide, Adelaide Hills and Surrounds

(1) Posted: 16/03/2021

Ceremonies today vary as much as sunrises and sunsets can vary.  Each has it's own color.  The really wonderful thing today is that the couple getting married have a HUGE amount of control over what is and isn't said as a part of the ceremony.  Family traditions, Ethnic rituals, even creating new traditions... it is YOUR wedding ceremony.  'Leave it in' or 'take it out'... your ceremony should be YOURS and it should be memorable.  Your Celebrant will help you make it so.


Suzie Jones Celebrant

Brisbane and Gold Coast

(3) Posted: 11/03/2021

In my experience no they do not, if the bride and groom request it then I would do what they ask.


Sarah Roberts Celebrant

Sunshine Coast and Surrounds

(18) Posted: 23/02/2021

I haven't had any couples ask me to include this into their Ceremony. I absolutely would if was requested of me...at the end of the day it's about YOU and what you want included in your Ceremony. xo


Treasured Ceremonies

Melbourne, All Suburbs, Mornington Peninsula, Geelong, Yarra Valley

(17) Posted: 23/02/2021

That is not required in the current legal system and therefore not a choice that couples make.

When the act was legislated in 1961 that old process was removed and replaced with a a requirement for the couple to sign a "Declaration of No Legal Impediment" whereby the couple state that they are legal, as far as they know, able to marry one another.
Your celebrant will explain this form to you and ask you both to sign it, in front of the celebrant.


Mary Odgers

South Australia

(26) Posted: 18/02/2021

All of the legal aspects are well explained before a couple arrive to enjoy their wedding celebration!

'Objecting' in wedding ceremonies were practiced in the days that this did not occur... allowing the opportunity of a last....

"speak now or forever hold your peace!"

Designing a ceremony is guided by a great celebrant offering ideas and formulating the desired results... however the couple are making final decisions as to their specific 'wants' and if they wished to have the opportunity for objection... then it should be included.

As long as the legal wording is said , this then allows for the couple to state what they would like to add.

Listening is a powerful tool to ensure that the couple achieve their dream day!


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