Congratulations, and thank you for the question.
There are mandatory legal vows which must be included, but around those you have a blank canvass if you choose to colour it with something personal. Have fun thinking about your inclusions and writing your vows, it's your time to express your love, your way, in the company of your loved ones.
I love it when my couples sit down together and talk about what specifically drew them to each other, why they believe in each other and what their joint hopes are for their life together as a couple.
Vows can be taken from this conversation and often include:
- do they promise to always be there to listen to, support, consider and love each other, cherishing their days together?
- they promise to endure the ups and downs that every relationship has; and
- to validate what it is that they love about their partner and what they're looking forward to sharing with them in the life they have planned together.
I would take care not to make it too personal or too lengthy. While your love for your partner is important it's also something that is between you two and there are some things that don't need to be shared with your guests.