I don't want a trashy hens, but I suspect thats whats being organised for me..

Hi Sophia, 
Sometimes it's really tough letting people know what you want, especially when you know they have your best interest at heart and are acting out of love... but at the end of the day, it is your wedding and your celebration. I would recommend that you just drop some not so subtle hints and let her know what YOUR ideal celebration would be.

Another solution might be combining your ideas? We run Life Drawing Class Hen's Parties as well as Burlesque Hen's Parties and even Mosaic Classes. These can be combined with brunch or dinner. We can find the perfect location and organise a classy party where you all get a drawing lesson (with a nude male model) you can also have a few drinks and we can organise food. Or we can organise a class in Classic Burlesque followed by dinner and drinks served by topless waiters at a restaurant. Another alternative is a champagne brunch where you all get to create a small mosaic which all the guests get to take home or combine into one large mosaic as a gift for you. 

We can aim your party at being as classy or raunchy as you like. At the end of the day, it's a celebration of your upcoming marriage, and I think you should get the biggest say in what the tone of the celebration is with your loved ones. Wishing you the best outcome for your party! 
Kind regards, 
Sarah
Grace Art Events. 

Hi there, why not try a yoga party? Or a paddle board yoga party? It's alot of fun and you can have fun with out the hang over the next day.

Or you can balance it out and do both.:)

Hi Sophia! That can be very tricky Hun and we completely understand your position. It is important to remember that your Sister-in-law has your best interests at heart - even if she does miss the mark a little. The best advice we have for you is to communicate with her, catch up over a coffee or a cocktail and have a chat about what is most important to you and what you dream of! If we can help at all just take a look through our website and we can send you some information about one of our classy packages! Best of luck talking to her about it Hun - just don't forget that she wants you to be happy too! xx

Hi Sophia - Please do pass on our details to your sister in law. We would be happy to chat about tailoring an lovely wine tour to meet your requirements and budget. Brunch or lunch at one of the wineries along with a glass of wine is also an option. We tour the Geelong/Bellarine, Mornington Peninsula, Warburton/Yarra Valley & Echuca/Moama Wine Regions. Look forward to assisting you.

Just tell her that you saw Bubble Soccer in a Park the other day and that you couldn't imagine anything worse for a hens party. If she rings us we will refund the deposit, but it has to be ASAP as I don't have to do this for you and I have already planned out drivers and runs. If she rings please be honest with us, regards Oliver

Hey Sophia - I highly doubt she's locked anything in if your Hens is next year. Which is great news! You definitely just need to be honest with her. I have a friend getting married in November, I am a bridesmaid and she has completely cut her sister out of Hens planning because the same thing would have happened! Some ideas to still make it fun without it being trashy; Pole Dancing Party, High Tea, Tarot Party, Lounge Bars, Boat Cruises, Spa Pampering. Its something all the girls can enjoy without it being tacky! Let us know if you want us to send you more details!

Having serviced now well in excess of 2400 hens parties over the last 10 years we have seen this happen quite a lot - where the bridesmaid or hens party organiser plans the party based on what they believe would be great, which is ideally based on what they personally want, forgetting about the bride and what really appeals to her. Several things you can do - if you aren't good with telling her straight out- give her a list of some ideas that you like (like our cupcakes and cocktails high tea party (that's our subtle plug of our business lol)), sometimes best to do this with a few of the girlfriends around so that they all understand. Otherwise believe it or not many brides plan there own hens party because of this reason. In most cases strippers aren't paid for until the night or the week of - hope this helps.

Hi Sophia,

It is your Hens Party and you are the reason it is happening, so having something acceptable to you should be the priority for the organisers.

Unfortunately what some deem trashy others deem perfectly acceptable, so I would suggest a quiet word with your sister in law along the lines of:

" I hope you haven't felt the need to plan a big night for my hens party, as I would be more than happy with something simple and elegant such as a brunch etc." Do not use words such as trashy to describe anything, as I'm sure you don't want to unintentionally offend. Reinforce how you appreciate what she is doing and state that you are confident that she will organise something suitable that you will enjoy.

If she mentions that strippers are booked and paid for, then politely and non-confrontationally say that it is not your scene. After all it is your celebration.

Best wishes

Kim

Our Ladies Nights are tailor made to suit all tastes with respect to venues visited providing they have 20 or more attending. Even with the smaller groups we ascertain the groups preferences. We offer 2 starting points depending whether the ladies want a Premium Tour or the normal Ladies Night. Both tours have optional extras covering meals, Male Revues and Private stripper/s if required. When food is required we have options ranging from Finger Food, Cocktail Food or a Main course dinner. Some groups want Male Revue shows or Private strippers and these options are only applied when requested. In essence you plan the event to suit your individual requirements.