Is it rude to give a couple a gift when they have said no gifts?
I really don't feel comfortable not giving them anything... But they said no gifts/wishingwell on the invitation!
Luna S
Question Asked: 27/02/2017
Wedding Date: 12/05/2018
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Hi Luna,
No it is not rude, but it is not taking their wishes seriously and also puts other guests in an awkward position.
I would advise, to abide by their wishes. If you want to do something special for B & G after their honeymoon take them somewhere special for dinner.
Alternatively, have them home for dinner and present them with your gift then.
Happy days to you.
Jan
(18) · Byron Bay to Ballina , North Coast NSW and Gold Coast QLD
Posted: 7/04/2017
yes it is but you can still donate to charity and give them the receipt
(1) · Noosa and Surrounds, Gympie to Caloundra, The Hinterland
Posted: 8/03/2017
It is not rude but it is unecessary. If you feel under some obligatioin maybe you could take them out for dinner at some stage after the wedding.
(215) · Gold Coast, Tamborine Mountain, Gold Coast Hinterland, Brisbane & Northern NSW
Posted: 6/03/2017
Hi Luna Congratulations!
I think if you know a family member close to the couple perhaps you could contact them and inquire as to how the couple would feel if you bought a gift to give them at their wedding at the same time perhaps inquire which is their favourite charity to donate to and that way you won't feel uncomfortable. Have a wonderful time at the wedding!
Marry Me Marilyn Wedding Celebrant
(15) · Wollongong, South Coast (as far as Nowra), Southern Highlands and Sydney
Posted: 4/03/2017
Hi Luna
I would comply with their wishes. You could donate money to a charity they support.
(33) · Sydney and Surrounding Suburbs | Blue Mountains | Hunter Valley | Will travel
Posted: 3/03/2017
Hi Luna S.
I think that you should look upon the Invitation request as a blessing in disguise as they would prefer to have cash go into the wishing well and you don't have to worry about a suitable gift.
You can give a beautiful card, and place the same amount of cash in the card as you would spend on a gift.You won't be judged,after all you are obviously special enough to be a guest, and they have a plan of what they will spend the cash on. It is quite a custom in some cultures to give money.
Relax and Enjoy.
Warmest Regards
Linda Marsden "The Celebrant"
Hello, if your couple have requested on their invitation then I would respect their request. Perhaps you could plan with them prior to their Wedding to take them to dinner after the Wedding and share a personal evening with them in lieu of a gift.
Rosemary Hackman
Ceremonieswithheart@ gmail.com.
(3) · Lismore | Byron Bay | Far North Coast | Tweed Heads | Gold Coast
Posted: 2/03/2017
Hi Luna, I would give a gift but maybe donate to a charity on their behalf, and place receipt in the card, RSPCA can be a very special gift. I donate 10% of my fee for Pet memorials to the RSPCA on behalf of my clients deceased pet. Have a think I am sure you will come up with something ideal.
Cheers
Susan Harmon of Susan Celebrations
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(27) · Brisbane and surrounds | Gold Coast | Sunshine Coast
Posted: 2/03/2017
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Depending on their background, especially culture, I would send a sum of money to a Charity/Cancer Research/Church Group or whatever and send the couple a letter congratulating them on the day and letting them know what you have done.