How do I ensure my vows sound good enough?

Your celebrant should start you off with some guidelines for structure, what questions to ask yourself about the other person etc. and this will provide answers and starting poiints for writing your vows.  A good celebrant will always look at both sets of vows and make sure they are similar in length and tone and then sugest any edits to make that don't change the essence of what the person wants to say to their partner.  In the end though, it's important for you to keep them authentic.

Cheers

Steve Mummery | Celebrant

Review and practice :) 

It is important to remember that you and you partner are the focus of the marriage.  Its not about how good your vows are, its about how meaningfull they are to you and your partner.  Your Celebrant is always helpful in that area, so dont be affraid to ask for guidance.  

As a celebrant i make sure my couple are comfortable with the vows and they are relaxed in saying them. A vow is a promise that you make to each other on the day and that is how it should come across. Concentrate on each other not everyone else, Happy to discuss.

Hey there,

Vows are possibly the hardest part of organising the ceremony, but remember it's your marriage, two people coming together, sharing the best of the past and what will be incredible into the future.

Share the things you love and bring in some personal fun things too, don't be afraid to laugh during your vows....these are all about the both of you!

Good luck and knock em over with awesome vows....oh and I always offer a spot of help if you're struggling!

Hi there,

Remember that your vows are personal and come from your heart, unique and will tell how and why you feel the way you do about the other - there's no objective standard that you have to meet in order for your vows to be considered 'good enough'. They're yours and no-one else's. 

When speaking your vows, be yourself, don't try and over do it, speak truly and let it flow. 

Perhaps, if someone asked you - 'In 20 words or less, tell me how you feel about your bride/ groom' - what would you say?

All the best!

Ashley Truscott

Civil Marriage Celebrant 

My advice to couples is to say what's in your heart. Don't try to be too clever, too witty, too emotional...and don't try too hard or you'll never feel that you're good enough. There is no right or wrong here. It's your moment, to say quite simply to each other, how YOU feel. So if you focus on that, what you say will always be special, meaningful and just right for you.

This is a regular concern for my couples. Sometimes it’s hard to know what to say, how much to say, what your partner is going to say. 

I work with my couples to develop a tone or basic structure for their vows to assist with the above concerns. Sometimes  the couples write their own individual vows or write the same but your Celebrant is always there to help you or listen to your vows if you don’t want to share them with your partner before your big day. 

Hi there!

A good way to make sure your vows sound good and align well with your partner's is to get your celebrant to review both sets separately, giving each partner some tips on what to do re length, tone, and structure. This way you can be sure that you will be on par with eachother as a starting point - and given your celebrant will have likely seen a few weddings before, they will definitely have some pointers re making them as appropriate for you as possible!

Two of the services offered by many celebrants (including myself ) are commonly used templates/structures for vow creation and also the alignment review I mentioned above. This will go a long way to ensuring you hit the mark.

Additionally a quick google search should give you some ideas - but I would stress that it is important firstly to try to work out what sort of tone you want to go for  - authenticity is key - and how long you think you should speak.

I hope that helps!

Mitch 

Mitch@loveislovecelebrants.com.au