dry wedding?
im worried about my friends getting out of control can we have it dry for the ceremony or tell them no pre drinks
Question Asked: 28/08/2025
Wedding Date: 9/08/2018
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Yes, absolutely have a dry wedding if that’s what feels right for you.
It is your celebration, and it should reflect your comfort and values. You don’t need to explain your reasons to your guests, but I do recommend mentioning it on your invitations so everyone knows what to expect before the day.
If you have the time and means, consider creating a signature mocktail to serve on arrival at the reception. It’s a wonderful way to set the tone, add a sense of occasion, and leave a lasting impression, all with class, fun, and none of the alcohol.
(38) · Melbourne and surrounds and Mornington Pennisula and Yarra Valley Also Mansfield
Posted: 29/08/2025
I think a dry ceremony is a great idea. It shows great respect from your guests to wait until the Ceremony is finished and then celebrate your marriage with a drink. Of course, it all depends on the type of ceremony you wish to have. There is no rule to say you can't have drinks before the ceremony but it is definatly something to look forward to if the guests wait until the marriage ceremony has finished. Cheers, Greg
I don't think that's an unreasonable request at all. It's your day! I can't say I've experienced any rowdiness at a ceremony due to drinking, especially if the ceremony is before sundown, as they usually are, but if you are concerned then I don't think there is anything wrong with making a comment about it. If you have specific friends in mind then maybe it's worth reaching out to them personally rather than a larger announcement?
I'd say the earlier in the day you have your ceremony, the lower the chance of anyone pre-drinking. But again, you know your friends and taking pre-cautions by contacting them prior is a good option.
Good luck! Happy to help you draft a message, feel free to reach out.
Our Friend Stanley
Your wedding - your choice.
I would hope that your friends would be more respectful but if they don't respect your wishes, perhaps they should not be there.
Incidentally, the Celebrant has a legal responsibility to refuse to perform the ceremony if you and your witnesses are NOT sober and has the right to refuse to perform the ceremony if the Celebrant feels unsafe.
Cancellation is rare, but it has happened.
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My motto is.....'It's your day so let's do it your way', so absolutely if you would like your ceremony to be a dry event, then have a dry event.
I would however suggest that your guests are well informed that this is your intention so that there is no confusion. Consider including the details with your provided wedding information or even include the details on your invitations.
I hope thus helps.
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