Can we involve our child in the vows/ceremony?

Yes of course  a child can be included in any aspect of a Wedding Ceremony- whatever you want them to do so that they can be included on your special day.

• Flower girl/ page boy/ girl
• Carrying the brides train of dress
• Carrying the rings
• Handing out orders of ceremony
• Playing  or singing a song / reading a poem

Depending on the age of the child they may get overcome by the occasion and not be able to complete the task , so always good to have an adult on hand to asisst or carry them if they are very small !

The only thing a child under 18 years cannot do is witness the marriage.

Of course you can! There is nothing more special than having your child apart of your ceremony.

There are so many special ways to do this, be it as a flower girl/page boy, a ring bearer, have them make a special reading or if you want a real tear jerker a special pre recorded message for the crowd, bride or groom. Depending on the age of your child, they may even be able to be a witnesses for your wedding and help complete the necessary paperwork and certificates.

Your child can be involved in your ceremony in any way you choose, it is only the legal part of the ceremony which cannot be changed and only invoives the two people who are getting married.

Yes you can. You can have them write/say anything you wish.

Yes -  examples are :

  Adding a part for children

For younger children

  Before they make their own vows Bride and Groom have asked me to say a few words to the

  children on their behalf. (Or you may choose to say them yourselves.)

  To (children’s names), Bride and Groom promise to help you to attain your dreams and

  aspirations in life and to maintain a loving home where you and your friends will always be

  welcome.  They want you to know that they love you very much.

  If a couple is adding the “Rose Ceremony” often they will have a rose for each of the children. 

  After exchanging roses, the couple will then give each child a rose, a hug and whisper “I love

  you.”

  “Not only are Bride and Groom creating a marriage today, but they also are forming a family with

  (child/children’s name(s)).  Just as it is appropriate for Bride and Groom to declare their love for

  each other in the gift of a rose, they also wish to show you (to the children) how much they love

  you with the gift of a rose.”

These are examples I have in my Wedding Ceremonety Book that I share with couples :)

Darran Moran

Marriage Celebrant

Absolutely and it is such a personal addition to your weddiing day to involve your children. Depending on the ages, they can participate in such roles as, flower girl, page boy, ring bearers, attendant, readings and poems. They can even say their own vows to you, or especially if a blended family can make a committment to the joining of the families. They can be included in a ritual, such as sand ceremony or butterfly / dove release. Remember this is your day, so apart from the necessary legal obligations, the rest can be created however you choose to have your ceremony. Congratulations and enjoy your day.

There are many ways your child can be included in your Ceremony. The child is a product of your love and is of course, a very important part of your marriage, and so it is always preferable to include your child in some way in the ceremony. Inclusion can be as simple as mentioning their name during key parts of the ceremony, such as the vows, or including them in a unifying ritual. 

Whilst the couple must say some specific words to each other in their marriage vows, other words can be added (personal vows) or a additional set of vows can be said specifically for the child's benefit, and although the extra words have no legal standing under the Marriage Act, they can have a great deal of emotional importance. 

Included in the vows or not, during the ceremony, the Child can be mentioned and introduced; and depending on age and ability, you can assign set tasks and responsibilities such as:

• Bridal/Groom escort
• Junior Bridesmaid/Groomsman
• Page boy
• Flower girl/boy
• Ring bearer/s
• Ushers
• Bouquet holder
• Announcer
• Reader
• Welcomer
• and lots more….

Yes, so many ways to do that and such a great way to help make them feel connected on the day.  I find kids under 4 don't really care on the day (they will later if it's recorded).  Really helpful in situation where there is a celebration of a creation of a new family that the child is a part of from the ceremony.  I've seen gifts, presentations, special vows work well.  A great opportunity to highlight how important they are to you.

Including children—whether your own or stepchildren—in your wedding ceremony is a beautiful way to honor your family bond and make them feel like an essential part of your big day. It can help them feel involved, valued, and excited about this new chapter in your lives.  There are a number of ways you can do this and just to name a few:

• Special vows for the children
• Family unity ceremony
• Ring or keepsake presentation
• Walking down the aisle together
• Involving them in the reception or speeches

Your celebrant will be able to guide you in selecting the most appropriate way to include children based on their age, personality, and comfort level. They’re experienced in creating a meaningful and flexible ceremony that ensures everyone feels involved without pressure.

For very young children, emotions may run high on the day, so it’s good to keep things simple and allow them to go with the flow. Rather than expecting them to follow a rigid plan, giving them space to engage naturally will help them feel comfortable. Your celebrant will also be able to help manage this, ensuring a smooth and stress-free ceremony.

There is also the other extreme, some children don't want to be involved and then change their mind on the day.  Always have a backup plan for children.  Have something simple to make them involved.  Once again, wedding planners and celebrants are experienced with these sorts of scenarios.  

Your child can be involved in the ceremony in a number of ways. Firstly the child could be either a page boy or flower girl or if the child is old enough they could do a reading. Though the child may not recite the vows they may be mentioned in the vows once the legal vows are said. also the child may be presented with a keepsake such as a watch or pendant.