Any tips on writing vows?

Your celebrant can give you example vows that can help you get started. Another great source for vow inspiration is Pinterest. At the end of the day, don’t second guess yourself - you know your bride/groom to be best! 

Yes, make them fun, make them real, make your partner know how you really feel.

Some of the most sincere vows I have witnessed, have been so powerful and yet so simple.

I would say write as if you were writing to your loved one, include all you are grateful for in your loving relationship.

Yes they can be promises, always best to write words that come from your heart. 

Hello. Writing Vows!  

This is the most important part of your  ceremony, and the most beautiful.

There are both formal vows to take  in order to comply with the legal sections of the Wedding Ceremony, but it is in the personal vows  where you pledge yourselves to each other in a most intimate manner, which are truly beautiful.

The formal  Vows are as follows

 I call upon the persons here present to witness that I,  ………    take  you ……….. to be my lawful husband

I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, ……….. take  you …………..to be my lawful  wife.

This is a once in a lifetime event. So here are some ideas which might help in writing you own Vows. 

1. When writing your Vows your planning time together is truly special as you consider what it is you want to say to each other - what you want for your shared life together. 

2.  Read through some sample  Vows which your Celebrant will provide for you. Underline some phrases which you love and which  speak of your relationship with your partner. 

3. Find a quiet nook with your pencil or fingers poised, and just write  what you would like to say to your partner. Don’t worry about sentences, or correct wording, just write from your heart and get to the core of what you want to say. Think about

(a)  Why do I want to marry you?   (b) What I will try to be for you.   

At some stage  you can decide on whether you will  write your Vows together,  or whether  each of you will write your Vows privately. 

Remember, you don't need to be a writer or poet. You just need to write from your heart what you feel. This is what beautiful Vows are all about.  Sincerity and truth. They are about you and your love, and noone else in the world, at that moment, matters.  Best wishes. Maureena

My number one tip is "go from the heart" and number two "don't worry about what people will think" authenticity is key!!

Celebrants, websites and forums, as well as fave poems and song lyrics can give you some good lines to use or base your own vows around. Take your time, maybe read it out and see how it feels?

Often keeping them a secret from your spouse is lovely too, if you are game enough!!

Good luck!!!

Your vows must contain the legal wordings, once this is done and dusted you can add what you like (as long as it's nice!). If my clients prepare their own vows or words to each other I ask them what the words mean ie: are they vows, promises or responses.

Vows are, essentially, promises. Don't stress about them though. I always tell my couples that, when it comes to the vows, the strongest words are the simplest, spoken from the heart. My advice to my couples if, like you, they don't know where to begin is to open a word document and, using bullet points, write down 4 or 5 of the reasons why you love your partner. Then write down 3 or 4 promises that you want to make. Remove the bullet points and add your partners name at the beginning and, presto, you have your vows. At the end of the day your vows are for your partner and no-one else really. Letting everyone at the wedding hear them is a courtesy to them and a show of commitment from you to your partner that you are saying it in front of witnesses. There's nothing legal about 'personal' vows. The legal vows are very short and to the point. Personal vows are exactly that, personal. Don't stress about it. You'll find once you get started that it all comes pretty easily and that you'll probably have to hold yourself back.

Hello, just write what is in your heart and if there are some funny, quirky things about each of you it is fun to put them in as well. Just go with the flow and when you think of something you would like to say jot it down because if you are going to sit down to write I can assure you you will get writers block and be disappointed. Good luck.

Google has thousands- your celebrant should be able to guide you and provide samples. contact me on my website and I will send you a portfolio

Your celebrant can help you with writing your vows and there is information to help you on the internet