Love is Love Celebrancy

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1 5 5.0 (14 reviews) 
Service Area
Melbourne & Surroundings, Mornington Peninsula, Yarra Valley/Dandenongs
Business Hours
7 Days
Phone
0409 757 741

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How long should my vows be?

Hi there!

To be honest I don't think there is a prescribed minimum time for personal vows, and it really comes down to how much you want to share at the ceremony  (vs. Potentially later at the reception speeches for example). I have seen couples do as short as a paragraph, or series of short promises to eachother. Couples I have worked with have also spoken for up to 5 minutes each. 

My suggestion is if you are a reasonable comfortable public speaker, aim for 3 - 4 short stories, anecdotes or key items you want to include and have a first crack at writing down your ideas. Then you could see how well they tie together or even work through what you have with your celebrant - as they will have seen a lot of vows they will know how to tie things together.

I think the  most important things are you have vows that reflect you and that you are comfortable sharing:)

Mitch 

Does anyone do the classic vows anymore?

I___ take thee ___ to be my lawfully wedded ___. In sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, as long as we both shall live etc Just wondering

Hi there,

With respect to the first sentence - this is still part of the legal vows so that is certainly done in all weddings as a minimum requirement. Essentially it is the below (with some minor changes allowed with respect to the words "people", "lawful wedded" and "wife/husband":

“I call upon the people here present to witness that I, AB/CD, take you, CD/AB, to be my lawful wedded wife/husband.” You may leave out lawful or wedded but not both; you must use one of these words

With respect to the latter sentence and subsequent wording, you have as much discretion as you like here. In my experience (5 weddings to date) not many couples have gone for the classic wording, but they certainly have used it for inspiration for their own.

This can range from  "I promise to take care of you in good times and in the bad, for the rest of our lives together"  through to "I will love you until it is no longer possible, until my last breath" but as above can really be anything you like.

So in summary - the first sentence is legally required, the second is not and you will find some couples use it (or a derivation) whilst others make something up that is more appropriate to the relationship they have.

Hope that helps!

Mitch

Mitch@loveislovecelebrants.com.au

How do I ensure my vows sound good enough?

Hi there!

A good way to make sure your vows sound good and align well with your partner's is to get your celebrant to review both sets separately, giving each partner some tips on what to do re length, tone, and structure. This way you can be sure that you will be on par with eachother as a starting point - and given your celebrant will have likely seen a few weddings before, they will definitely have some pointers re making them as appropriate for you as possible!

Two of the services offered by many celebrants (including myself ) are commonly used templates/structures for vow creation and also the alignment review I mentioned above. This will go a long way to ensuring you hit the mark.

Additionally a quick google search should give you some ideas - but I would stress that it is important firstly to try to work out what sort of tone you want to go for  - authenticity is key - and how long you think you should speak.

I hope that helps!

Mitch 

Mitch@loveislovecelebrants.com.au


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