Mitchell Coulthard - Celebrant

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Adelaide, Adelaide Hills and Surrounds
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Is it OK to ask a celebrant to wear a costume at our wedding?

Hello! I've read some responses to celebrants dressing in a matching style etc. Is it rude to ask if they wouldn't mind wearing a costume? I've read somewhere a couple got married by batman and then the obvious Elvis option.. I like the idea of an iconic character and think it would be something to remember but wouldn't want to offend anyone or make it a bad experience. TIA

Mitchell Coulthard - Celebrant

Greetings!

Not rude at all to ask a celebrant to wear something... special.  As a 'Man in the Red Suit' when it nears the end of December, I've been asked any number of times if I could perform as a celebrant 'dressed rather colorfully'.  I've also been asked if it is possible to perform 'theme weddings'.  Absolutely!  From a varaiety of fancy to fanciful ties, to full costumes, the wedding is YOUR wedding.  Some celebrants may prefer a rather staid, traditional service.  Others can get as 'crazy' or as minimalist as you can imagine.  One thing... make certain you discuss these things with your celebrant.  It is one more facet you need to keep tabs on to make certain everything comes off as it should on YOUR day. 

Confusion around roles of matron of honour, maid of honor and who can be a witness with the best man

I have a Maid of Honor who is unmarried and a Matron of Honor who is married. I want my Matron to be a witness along with the Best Man. Even though she is married, can I have her as the Maid instead?

Mitchell Coulthard - Celebrant

Witness selection is very simple.  The requirements to be a legal witness at a wedding are very straight forward - two witnesses, both 18 years of age or older.  Minimum wedding is a celebrant, the couple to be married, and two witnesses.  However, being a witness is no small role in YOUR wedding.  It can be very special for a friend or family to be a witness to your nuptuals... even if they have other roles in your ceremony.  

As for maids of honor, matrons of honor, best men and others, the roles in your wedding are up to you.  Any of them can be a witness, too (adhereing to the '18 or over' rule).  Not to throw a damper on things, just remember that your Celebrant can invalidate anyone in one of the key and legal roles if they are not sober minded as well.  Your celebrant is there not only to do the best job possible for you, he is also there to protect your service so it never comes to question.

Do any modern couples still include the opportunity to object during a wedding ceremony?

Curious about this and how it would be done well.

Mitchell Coulthard - Celebrant

Ceremonies today vary as much as sunrises and sunsets can vary.  Each has it's own color.  The really wonderful thing today is that the couple getting married have a HUGE amount of control over what is and isn't said as a part of the ceremony.  Family traditions, Ethnic rituals, even creating new traditions... it is YOUR wedding ceremony.  'Leave it in' or 'take it out'... your ceremony should be YOURS and it should be memorable.  Your Celebrant will help you make it so.

Can we write our own ring element into our wedding ceremony?

Wondering if the ring part of our ceremony can be personalised or if it has to be what everyone else has?

Mitchell Coulthard - Celebrant

ABSOLUTELY!!  Virtually EVERYTHING about the wedding 'is about you!'.  It's your story, it's your ceremony.  Anything you can do to make it more specail to yourself, your soon-to-be spouse, and your guests is truly what it's all about.

If you have any doubts or hesitations about ideas, there are a LOT of ideas on the net and your celebrant may turn out to be one of the most creative and helpful people you have for your special day.

Congratulations!!

Can the celebrant refer to us as husband and wife in a commitment ceremony?

In a commitment ceremony is the celebrant allowed to say husband and wife?

Mitchell Coulthard - Celebrant

Please understand, the simple answer is 'yes'.  But it is not a simple issue.

A commitment ceremony differs from a wedding ceremony in several ways.  It is a public affirmation of a couple's commitment to each other, but it is not a legal marriage in that there are no property or life commitments recognized under law as they would be in a legal marriage.  Most often a commitment ceremony ends with the delcaration including something akin to '... future husband and wife...' or '... partners for life...'.  Certainly in your vows and the declaration, you can be refered to as husband and wife.

Just as a couple living in a defacto relationship will easily call each other 'husband and wife', so, too, will a committed couple.  There are examples of commitment ceremonies where the couple are refered to husband and wife, but I think it diminishes the actual legal wedding ceremony a tiny bit unless it is worded carefully.  Carefully as to make the ceremony not just a commitement, but a promise to be husband and wife.  Legal Celebrants in Australia are obligated to make it clear that this is not a legal marriage, it is, however, a moral commitment of no less meaning and importance.

A commitment ceremony cannot have what is called the monitum, a legal requirement in Australian Wedding Ceremonies.  IF it did, the words would be meaningless.  I would prefer the couple share commitment vows that say so very much more than the monitum.  Then, whether the 'real' wedding is formal or a quicky wedding, the monitum would be included as needed to make it legal under Australian Law.  Weddings perfomred in other countries will undoubtably have fine points of their own to which must be attended.

Additionally, there are paperwork issues that need to be addressed in a legal wedding service.  Once these bits of paper are signed and witnessed, the marriage, along with other requirements such as the Notice of Intended Marriage and the document stating No Legal Impediment to Marry, formalize the marriage and it becomes a legal service.

I've heard of 'very traditional' Celebrants that choose not to perform Commitement Ceremonies.  I've never asked why.  In my mind, any couple within the legal parameters of being marriable to each other should have no impediment to their statements of commitment to each other.  I would personally hope to see a marriage between them at a later date.... but that's just me.  I'm a hopeless romantic.

Love is love.  It is something we cannot deny when it is in it's truest forms.  I would ask, as many celebrants would, that there be an opportunity to sit down with you and your partner to chat about the finer points of the ceremony including when, where, and how to refer to you as Husband and Wife.

How many people can you have at the moment with the virus?

Mitchell Coulthard - Celebrant

In South Australia, as in just about anywhere affected by the Covid-19 virus strains, the number of wedding participants can vary almost wildly from one week to the next.  IN example, the recent 'Six Day Lockdown' (only three days)  knocked the number back to virtually zero as everyone was in a complete lockdown.  Once the lockdown was removed, the number jumped up to 150.  Howver, this was also affected by the venue size and the space available to maintain a four square meter social distancing requirement.

We live by hopeful trends... hope the weather is good... hope the people wear masks if they are infected... and so very much more.  It is my sincere hope we can move out of this social distancing and limits on gatherings quickly, gracefully, and safely.

For the time being, ALWAYS check with  or call the following:

https://www.covid-19.sa.gov.au/restrictions-and-responsibilities/events,-activities-and-gatherings

OR

SA Covid Information Hotline :  1800 253 787

How do I go about officiating my Hindu wedding if the priest is not recognised as a marriage celebrant?

I will be having a traditional Hindu wedding with a priest performing all the rites and rituals. Our priest performs many weddings but is not a marriage celebrant to officiate the wedding on the day with signing the paperwork. How do I go about this?

Mitchell Coulthard - Celebrant

'Blended' weddings can be remarkably beautiful.  The requirements for a legal wedding in Australia are very straight forward.  The real beauty of the Austrlain Legalities is that you can have ANY ceremony surrounding it as long as a Registered Austrlain Celebrant is performing the legal requirements as dictated under Australian Marriage Law.  As part of a 'practice wedding' I was part of an Indian/Australian 'blended' wedding.  It was marvelous!!  Most celebrants look forward to blended weddings to see what they can do to make it that much better for you.

I have no idea how to start writing my wedding vows

Can you please give me some advice or a structure for how I can write my vows to my soon-to-be husband?

Mitchell Coulthard - Celebrant

There was a time the wedding vow was as simple as calling each other husband and wife and hopping over a broom.  Today, it's a bit different.

My advice would be to sit with each other at some quiet time.  Maybe as you watch the sunset as you hold hands and lean against the rail along the esplanade.  Maybe as you finish a quiet dinner together, doing little hip nudges as one washes and the other dries the dishes.  Use your imagination.  You have a story to tell.  You have a promise in your heart to be with the person standing closest to you.  Let those thoughts flow.

Nothing is too corny or mushy or silly.  A wedding is a celebration.  It is a joyful time.  It's a time to bare a little bit of your heart to everyone.  It is a time for laughter... and for tears of joy.

Once you and your partner have some story to tell... some notes you are happy with... discuss these with your celebrant.  We spend a lot of time thinking about our weddings, the weddings of our friends, and so very much more.  Together, you and your celebrant, can form the words you want to say... the words that mean the most to you.  And whether you want to memorize something and amaze everyone with your reading of some third act in an Italian Play, or have fun stumbling over the words shyly as you hold hands with your partner, just remember, your celebrant is there to help you say whatever you wish to share in words with each other and your friends.


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