Wedding vows to take his (or her) breath away

Wedding celebrant David Schneider

You don’t have to be Shakespeare to write your own vows, you just have to be sincere.

Vows are integral to your wedding ceremony and should be just as unique as you are, so why not write your own?

While there’s nothing wrong with standard, pre-written vows, it’s always nice to add a little flair of your own to such an important, life-changing occasion.

Melbourne celebrant David Schneider performs 80 – 100 wedding ceremonies each year and says that about 4 out of every 10 couples opts to write their own vows, though nearly all alter existing vows in some way.

David, a professional celebrant, provides his couples with at least 50 alternatives and, if none suit, will help them pen their own oaths.

However, he warns, there’s a fine line between tear inducing – and yawn inducing – when it comes to writing your own vows.

The trick is keeping it simple and sincere.

“Writing your own vows is not something that all couples find easy,” says David who has been a wedding celebrant for four years and has performed more than 300 nuptials in that time.

“Many couples have thoughts of what they would like to say but have trouble expressing it in the best, most romantic way,” he adds.

“Your celebrant should be able to help you with this, but if not, I suggest each person taking a piece of paper each and writing down the words and phrases that express their feeling for each other, things like words that express how they felt when you first started dating and what their life has been like so far.”

From there, you’ll find your vows virtually write themselves – and often couples find themselves with too much to say!

If you’re still stuck, David suggests taking traditional vows, such as; ‘I take you, Mary, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part’ and inserting the words, phrases and sentiments on your paper into such existing oaths.

For couples who don’t want to write their own vows, but still want something a little different, David suggests “mixing and matching” from as many as you need.

“I provide my couples with over 50 vows and I describe it as being like a take away menu,” says David. “Then they say, ‘I’ll have numbers 4, 8 and 12, thanks’.”

“From this point I then look at the themes of the vows they have chosen, and having gotten to know the couple and listening to their thoughts and ideas, I then blend all of this together to write vows that are special and unique to the couple.

Though David says every one of the 300+ oaths he’s had a hand in, one in particular, written by the groom, sticks in his mind – and brought him, the bride and most of the guests to tears.

(Names changed)

Groom: I, Peter Robinson, love you,  Kate Winslow, with all my heart. You are my best friend, my one and only Buzzy.
Since I was 17 there has never been a doubt in my mind that one day I will make you my wife, and today here we stand.
Over the past six years we have grown together and learnt a lot about each other and I look forward to spending the rest of my life learning a lot more with you.
I promise to always be there for you, support you, to always make your life fun and never boring, to show you love, to tell you everyday just how beautiful you are.
I love you so much it is hard to put into words.
When I hold you, it is not tight enough. When I kiss you, it is not passionate enough.
Even my most passionate kisses don’t come close to show you how much you mean to me.
You are my Wonder Woman, my Little Mermaid, my Goddess and my Queen.
When you run up and throw your arms around me, I know that you feel the same as I do and that is the best feeling in the world.
I am completely happy and never want that feeling to end.
So I stand here today in front of these witnesses, our friends and family, staring into your amazing big green eyes, to ask you a very important question;
Will you, Kate Winslow, my best friend, my lover, my soulmate and my partner-in-crime be my lawful wedded wife?

Bride: I will

“The most important thing that I encourage couples to consider is that the vows are the most important part of the ceremony,” says David. “This is what you want to express to each other, so having input into your vows is the best and most beautiful way of expressing your love for each other during the ceremony.

If you’ve written your own vows, feel free to share them below in the comments box! We’d love to read them!

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18 June, 2011

Nicole Ainger says:

We wanted the start to be fun and get everyone into a party mood.

Today, Chris and Nicole will make vows to
each other, before they do, Chris and Nicole would like you; their guests, to also
make a vow. So I ask that you all raise your right hand and repeat after me;


I vow to Podge
and Nic to have a great time

and enjoy their special day,

I will eat all their food

and drink all their wine

I will introduce myself to people I don’t

I will bust-a-move on the dance floor

And I will have fun and celebrate!

Then my vows – the first few lines got alot of laughs as well.  I think it was a nice mix of fun and serious.

I, Nicole ask everyone here to witness that
I take you, Christopher as my husband.

However, I cannot promise not to be erratic.

I cannot promise to always be strong.

I cannot promise to never be moody.

I cannot promise not to hurt your feelings

But, I can promise to share my thoughts
with you.

I can promise to be supportive of you.

I can promise to be honest with you.

And I do promise to love you.

16 April, 2012

Rus says:

It definitely makes sense to write your own wows.  If in the process you can include the traditional ones, great.  It is more important to write something you mean from your heart than using something because it is just out there.

4 June, 2012

Hawaii wedding says:

Thanks for those tips.Sincerity is one of key factor to write a well written wedding vows.Just  be yourself and express what you really wanted.

7 June, 2012

Mykel says:

Here’s another set of wedding vows,might help :) 

“Take this ring as a seal upon the marriage vows I have spoken, and as you wear it, may it be a reminder of how much I love you, not only on this precious day, but every single day of your life. “

    25 January, 2013

    EasyWeddings says:

     Oh, that’s beautiful, Mykel. Thank you!

13 November, 2012

kimberna says:

In trying to find some inspiration for my wedding vows, I googled and it came up with this article. I had to laugh at the irony for David is our celebrant – looks like the best option all along was to look at the paperwork he has provided to inspire me :)

    25 January, 2013

    EasyWeddings says:

     LOL, Kimberna! Sometimes things are just meant to be!!!

26 November, 2012

Calistus says:

(Names Changed)
Jamie…I love you with all of my heart…you are my love, my light, my soulmate. You are the thing that keeps me singing, and keeps me alive and laughing. Without you, my life would mean nothing. So I ask you, are you ready to give me your heart, your light, and are you ready to be my soulmate? I give you this ring as a symbol of my love, forever, eternal, never ending. Like the circle, the ring. I give this to you…I love you Jamie Reid. And I will cherish you forever.

    20 December, 2012

    Hayley says:

    Omg I am sitting here crying my eyes out!!!! We have just booked our wedding & trying to choose our vows & this is absolutely perfect. I couldn’t read it as huge big lump in my throat, it is beautiful thank you for sharing such a special meaningful vow xx

      25 January, 2013

      EasyWeddings says:

       Awww, thanks, Hayley. Do come back and let us know what you went with!

    25 January, 2013

    EasyWeddings says:

     Wow, just lovely, Calistus… I have tears reading all of these!

17 December, 2012

Helen Langley says:

Bride:  I, Helen Rose Langley, according to the Word of God, submit myself to you, to be your wife, I will respect, live in unity and be faithful and true to you.  I promise to love you to have and to hold you, nconditionally, through sickness and in health, wheather we are rich or poor.  I will stand by you, Jeffrey you are my best friend, my soul mate as you are everything I prayed and waited for. 

I will not let the sun go down on my anger with you and I will not keep kecords of wrongs against you.  I promise to be forgiving as OUr Father in Heaven forgave us of our sins, and as we forgive those who sin against us. 

Because of you, I laugh, I mile, I Dare to dream, again.  I look forward with great joy to spending the rest of my life with you.  Caring, for you in all life has for us, Burdens will be lighter because you divide them.  Joys will be more intense because you share them.

In knowing and loving you deeply.  I adore you.  Your love is precious and I am in Awe by your humble and gentrl ways.  I trust you, as you have shown me kindness patient, and made an effort to keep the unity of the spirit through the bond of peace.  Jeffrey, I truly love you.  I thank the Lord for being Captain of our souls.  And I promise from this moment forward, we shall be one and I will be yours for eternity. 

18 December, 2012

Selena says:

i selena jong love you mike hang with all my heart .from the moment i saw you i knew that we’ll be together and here i am standing in front you in my most georges dress.mike i want you to be in my life because ever since i met you i knew you where my soulmate my lover and we had so much fun together and i never want that fun to stop so mike hang will you be my lawful wedded husband

    25 January, 2013

    EasyWeddings says:

     Just lovely, Selena! :)

20 February, 2013

ilovehim92 says:

(name blanked out..)
_____, I love you, you are everything I’ve prayed for, you have shown me what love really is, you are comforting, loving, kind, genuine, and God has truely blessed me  with you. Today I choose you to be my husband to share God’s plan for our lives together. I promise to honor, cherish and comfort you everyday. I will always strengthen, help, and encourage you. I vow to be faithful with you and our walk in God. I vow to have the patience that love demands. I desire that you are always happy and that we share our Joy. I will love you when we dont always see eye to eye. I promise to follow you through all of life’s experiances as you follow God. I truely believe that this is God’s will. You are my bestfriend and my love grows for you more everyday, no matter what happens to us in the future, everyday that we are together is the greatest day of my life, I will always be yours. Will you _____ ________ my bestfriend, supporter, my partner-in-crime be my lawful wedded husband..

28 February, 2013

Selena gomez says:

i, Selena Gomez love you Justin Bieber.From the first day i saw you i knew that we would be together .i know that were famous but that doesn’t matter what matters is that were love and that is isn’t about that were made for eachother it is about love .so if i may ask again Justin bieber will you marry me.