Perhaps you’ve been dreaming of the day your daughter gets married for years, a day when finally you have the chance to tell the world just how proud you are of her. Then you sit down to write your father of the bride speech and suddenly your mind goes blank.
The father of the bride speech is a key moment in the wedding celebrations, and it can be a little daunting knowing you will have centre stage, at least for a few minutes. Try following this simple four step structure to put together the perfect father of the bride speech.
If you have the confidence to start your speech with a joke or humorous one liner, this can really help to break the ice. If like most father of the brides, however, you are a little nervous, simply start by introducing yourself, thanking everybody for coming, and giving special thanks to those who have travelled to be there and those who have helped in the planning and organisation of the wedding.
Say a few words about the wedding day so far, and how perfect everything has been. If you have some funny stories from the lead up to the wedding, or the early part of the wedding day itself, you can also include them at the start of the speech.
This is the crucial part of your father of the bride speech. It’s not often you get to discuss your daughter’s many qualities and achievements, so make the most of it and indulge yourself. Make sure you compliment her; tell her how wonderful she looks and how proud you are of her.
Try to talk a little about your daughter’s early years, perhaps tell a funny story or two about when she was growing up. Feel free to tease her about some of the things she has done but be kind and don’t say anything that you know will really embarrass her. Finally talk about when she met her new husband, making sure you tell the story in a positive way. This will lead you nicely into stage three.
It is customary for the father of the bride to welcome the groom into his family, and to express his happiness at the connection between the two families that the marriage will bring. Anecdotes that work well in father of the bride speeches include your first encounter with the groom, the first time you realised your daughter was in love, and your reaction to their engagement.
Depending on your relationship with your new son-in-law it’s fine to poke fun at him a little, and to joke about what he is letting himself in for in marrying your daughter. It may be that you don’t entirely approve of the groom, but the father of the bride speech is certainly not the time to express that. Keep your speech positive and focus on how your new son-in-law makes your daughter happy.
At the end of your father of the bride speech you should congratulate the happy couple on a wonderful wedding, and express your confidence in their future happiness together. Your closing should also contain some words of wisdom on marriage, perhaps referring to the speech your father-in-law gave at your wedding. Finally propose a toast to the bride and groom and have all the guests raise their glasses to the happy couple.