I need help, should I have kids or no kids at the wedding?

This is a highly personal decision and comes down to your preferences. Here are some pros and cons of having children at your wedding: 

Pros:

- Having your close family and friends' children there can bring you joy

- Saves parents organising a babysitter

- Great if you are family oriented and want them included on your day and in your photos

Cons:

- Can add cost for the reception

- Depending on age, can be disruptive during ceremony and/or speeches

- Parents have to look out for their kids and may not fully enjoy themselves 

Other things to consider: Is the venue child friendly? Do you have kids activities? How old are the children and will parents have to leave your wedding early to put the children to bed? 

This is a hard one as is personal.

Depends on the age and if they are family or friends.

I try to stick to a few rules like

close family children only, the ones you have alot to do with this could be all ages. 

Choose ages between newborn to 2yrs, they are a little easier to control and little Babies need their mum.

and another thing is you want your family and friends to be enjoying your wedding with you not running after children they may even like to have the night off.

It is a hard choice but generally you pay for children and they dont eat that much but can also make thing fun and interesting, so either way you look at it you will be smiling.

Remember above all it is your day and you have to be happy with all the choices you make not your family and friends.

Sharon

Kit & Kaboodle Events

This all depends what vibe and feel you envision for your special day also the venue? is it child friendly? How many kids would be invited? You could possibly have a smaller number of children or just those close to you. Weddings can be beautiful both with and without children, however its becoming a common trend that attendees prefer no children so they can actually enjoy your special night. I be delighted to help you further.

Best of luck with your wedding planning 

Louise Manning

Hunter Events NSW

To the special couple

Congratulations on your engagement and special time ahead. This is a very touchy question for a lot of couples. There are a few factors to concider when looking at the guest list and if there are a few families that have kids that might have to be included or not. As we always say to couples it depend on who your are, some couples are very family orintated and if this is you , having your guest kids there can create a very special family event.

Things to concider is:

• Cost of Venue per head and will the Catering or Venue give you discount for the kids
• Location of Venue, if in a luxury hotel the cost will be high, if a DIY or  outside garden venue the cost might be lower and it can be in the budget.
• Will there be entertainment for the Kids like special artist ect for them not to get bored (this is easy to arrange by your event planner and if your don't have one, there are a few companies out there you could contac, if you do want special family members with kid there) a crech for the smaller can be orginised.
• You can always have an age cut off on the kids you concider to have part of the guest list, like from an age that is more likely to enjoy an adult wedding, 12 years and up, this way atleast you do include some of the family members, most couples that is envited to an wedding usually want to enjoy the night and would orginise for their smaller kids to stay with someone els.

Overall you as a couple should have a good discussion and a look at how many kids are part of the guest list, and concider all points , then make an plan of actions. Just remember this is your day as a couple and your decission come first, family member should respect your decission what ever it may be.

Good luck

Engela Myburgh

Je T'aime Events Design & Styling

Including the kids can be great for the full family atmosphere.

Having a child free wedding means yourself and your guests can enjoy a stress free day/night and there will be less stress with seating arrangements and food.