how to word the wedding invitations

Hi! I recently had a bride who did this for her wedding. In her invitations, she included a menu where you could pre-order your dinner on the RSVP card. Her wording is as follows:

"As most people would normally have a wishing well or gift table, we are requesting something different!

Since we are combining two households into one, we have no need for anything.

Your gift to us is just your presence and for you to purchase your own meal.

We have included a menu for the night and would appreciate if you could please pre-order when you RSVP.

This will make the night run smoothly. If any issues arise regarding the meals or accommodation, please let us know and we will help in any way possible."

If it's just a standard cost per head, & guests can't choose what they want ahead of time, you can amend it to something along the lines of "we respectfully ask for a contribution of $x per head for your meal & drinks" & either provide your bank details or ask for cash on the night.

Good luck and let me know what you end up writing :)

Cheers,
Lava x

Hello Elise, Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! We know it can be tricky getting the wording perfect on your invitations, and with many people to organise we often recommend being as clear as possible to your guests so that they don't misinterpret your wishes! A suggestion might be to say "Your presence at our wedding celebration is present enough. We do not wish for any boxed or monetary gifts, but would ask guests to kindly cover the costs of their own meals and drinks." This way your intentions are clear and respectful to your guests! Have an amazig wedding day!

Hi, Another way to do it is to include a 'wishing well' asking for a monetary gift which 'could' then cover costs of meals. If you do decide on asking guests to pay directly for their meal and drinks rather than a wishing well, maybe also include the menu to allow guests to see what they are paying for. Have a wonderful week. Kind regards Jo, Inviting Invitations

Hi There, This is great way to include your guests in your big day without it breaking the bank! Here's what I would recommend: 'We hope you can join us for our special day, your presence in the greatest gift we could ask for. We respectfully request a contribution of $xx per guest for your meal in lieu of a gift.' Please don't hesitate to contact us if you need any further assistance. Warm regards, Hayley xx Personally Invited Invitations