{"id":42048,"date":"2017-03-01T05:45:53","date_gmt":"2017-02-28T18:45:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/content.easyweddings.com\/au\/articles\/tinder\/"},"modified":"2021-11-10T05:43:16","modified_gmt":"2021-11-09T18:43:16","slug":"tinder","status":"publish","type":"au-article","link":"https:\/\/www.easyweddings.com.au\/articles\/tinder\/","title":{"rendered":"My friend’s partner is on Tinder \u2014 Help!"},"content":{"rendered":"

So you\u2019re trawling through endless singles on Tinder and \u2014 wait. It couldn\u2019t be \u2014 could it? Your friend\u2019s partner appears on the screen. Do you swipe left or right? The idea of stamping your phone into the ground suddenly seems plausible, but the damage is already done. Your friend\u2019s supposedly \u2018faithful\u2019 partner is on a dating site.<\/p>\n

\"tinder<\/p>\n

Tell your friend immediately<\/h2>\n

Send her a quick text: \u201cHey, TakenGuy is on Tinder. Is it an old profile?\u201d
\nYou may upset her initially, but if you never ask you\u2019ll never know. Perhaps they\u2019re in an open relationship? No amount of time stewing over the discovery\u00a0will deliver you at a conclusion without directly asking. Keeping this level of gossip to yourself may undermine your trustworthiness in the future. If you can keep this from your friend, what else are you keeping from her?<\/p>\n

\"tinder<\/p>\n

Say nothing<\/h2>\n

So you\u2019ve chosen to keep it to yourself. Meddling with someone else\u2019s relationship is harmful to all parties \u2014 right? This is entirely up to your moral compass. However, if in the future the secret gets out, perhaps it\u2019s best to keep your prior knowledge to yourself. You kept something from your friend, and because of it, you may end up breaking the trust between you and her.<\/p>\n

Screenshot it<\/h2>\n

If you plan on telling your friend, and she\u2019s the type who wears rose-tinted glasses and believes the sun shines out of TakenGuy\u2019s ass, perhaps it\u2019s worth collecting proof of the offense. Evidence to present at the trial.<\/p>\n

Tell another friend<\/h2>\n

Perhaps you\u2019re not as in the loop as you thought. If the couple in question has recently broken up, and you haven\u2019t found out yet, maybe someone else can clue you in. Telling a friend may even pass on your burden \u2014 but be careful of this. If your friend catches wind of that you\u2019ve been gossiping about her relationship behind her back, you may end up as popular as a brown snake in a lucky dip. Yikes.<\/p>\n

\"tinder<\/p>\n

Swipe right (yes) and talk to him<\/h2>\n

If worlds align, and you and TakenGuy match on Tinder, perhaps this is a good opportunity to ask him what he\u2019s doing on Tinder in the first place. This is risky, though \u2014 your friend may question why you swiped right to her partner. No amount of explaining will get you out of that one.<\/p>\n

\"tinder<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, there is no right or wrong thing to do in this situation. Telling your friend, keeping it to yourself, and confronting the Tinder offender can end in catastrophe. Perhaps to avoid this situation altogether from the get-go, it’s just best to go outside and meet people the non-virtual way.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":42049,"template":"","au_article_tag":[1151,363,1457,130,16,1547],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.easyweddings.com.au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/au-article\/42048"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.easyweddings.com.au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/au-article"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.easyweddings.com.au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/au-article"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.easyweddings.com.au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.easyweddings.com.au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/au-article\/42048\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.easyweddings.com.au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/42049"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.easyweddings.com.au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=42048"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"au_article_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.easyweddings.com.au\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/au_article_tag?post=42048"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}