Love Bird Ceremonies

Ok, Melissa, you love your partner so that is a fabulous starting point! Now ask yourself 'why'? What are the special little things they do that make you smile? What are the funny things they do that make you laugh? What is it that gives you that incredible feeling of pride to have them by your side? What turns you on about them? What do you want to promise them? Maybe there is something that you do that drives them crazy, maybe you could promise to put more effort into not doing that? After you make your first draft hide it away for a while and then pull it out and have another look, you might want to add or subtract from it :) It is also a good idea to agree with your partner how much funny stuff and how much serious stuff you want to include in your vows - 60%/40% for example - just so one of you doesn't do all funny and the other all serious :! I hope this helps a little and wish you both all the very best for your future together, Delwyn x

Love Bird Ceremonies

Hi Daniella! I agree with you, quite often the meaning can get lost in all the stress and 'pleasing of other people' with a big wedding. It's usually the grooms that want to elope and they want to know how to convince their brides to agree to it :) It sounds like he is worried he will disappoint family members if you don't have the BIG wedding. My hairdresser recently told me of an amazing wedding that he was at where his niece got married and all the guests paid for their own meals and drinks - it was in a fabulous big pub with BBQ and a-la-carte so something for everyone. It meant everyone could come and drink and eat as little or as much as they liked and there was no financial pressure on the bride and groom. The bride and groom paid for the DJ. He said everyone understood and totally agreed and enjoyed themselves. It might be an option for you? Otherwise, would your fiance agree to eloping (dont forget the photographer/videographer or they will be REALLY upset) and then having a big, laid-back party to celebrate later? Having a big debt to pay off is not a great way to begin a marriage, especially as seems to take such a long time until it's repaid... and you may need money for other things, like starting a family :) Unfortunately, financial worries and arguments are the biggest killers of relationships. Perhaps if you show him how much you could save with one of these options and what you could do with that saved money, you might convince him :) Very best of luck and warmest wishes, Delwyn

Love Bird Ceremonies

Ode to my grandparents

When I was thrown to grasp the skies
And ran along to catch the flies
there was a peace in my mind
because I always had my grandparents around.

My grandma would sit and read me stories
And grandpa carried me on his shoulders
But there is nothing but a huge void
And still something that makes me bolder.

And that is love and faith
that they instilled in me
which I hold it closer to my heart
than anything in the world

Times are passing
and they are long passed away
but the memories remain fresh

and making me smile every day.

By eternlphoenixaura

I would introduce this poem with a few words of respect and gratitude to all of those who have influenced our lives and have at times risked their own safety to provide us with a safe and caring environment to develop in. Wishing you all the best Jordyn for your wedding day :) Delwyn