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[mummy2be]

ok for those who dont no me n dh have been trying for 17 months now and im really struggling, i found out another person i no is pregnant and it breaks my heart i dont understand why i deserve this!!! im thinking of having some counselling sessions but im just not sure...what is everyone else doing to cope??

[Lissat_81]

We also have had issues.. we started trying in October aroaund the time of our wedding in 2010 and so far nothing. We have made an appointment to see a fertility specialist (mid this month) but yes, it has been hard in the lead up with a LOT of our friends having had babies in the time we have been trying. We of course are happy for them but yes, it is disappointing that it has not happened for us. I did get quite upset at one point and I had to bite the bullet and make the appointment and in the meantime, I have been distracting myself with things to do or things to look forward to. It does not make the want go away but I have found it more bearable the last couple of months knowing that we have a plan in place and action is being taken, if that makes sense?

Have you seen anyone about it all?

[mummy2be]

yeah we have seen specialist and ive had a lap done which they found endo which they got rid of, dh is getting another sperm analysis in feb and depending on that result we might have to go thro assisted fertlilty which makes me very sad i just feel sad and dissapointed all the time!!

[Albe58]

Oh chick!!

We have been trying for 2 years and my chances of conceiving are slim....
My younger siblings have kids and recently I've welcomed a niece and nephew into the family and have another niece due on valentines day.....I've cried got angry and hated myself!!

I keep telling myself everything happens for a reason(if only I knew the reason)..Planning the wedding has kept me busy
but I know when that's done,I'll be a wreck!

I think counseling would be good,it gives you the chance to express everything without judgement....

My inbox is always open if you ever need to chat

[mummy2be]

thanks heaps going to docs 2moro about other things thinking about asking about a conselor

[mummy2be]

well i went to doc and im goin bk next monday to discuss some things and then he is going to refer me to a counselor feeling ok about it! af is due next monday so fingers crossed i wont need to go!

[HunterCommitmentGal]

hugs hon. we've been going through the process since Jan 2010 but its taken us longer for other reasons ... im in a same sex relationship and the assisted fertilty track takes alot longer.

its horrible though. and i hope the counsellors can help you put your head on. one of the best things someone told me was - its just like rolling a dice. everytime you roll the dice and you hope your number comes up. that's all it is. theres nothing you did or didnt do. its just a roll. some people get it straight away. others dont. you keep rolling. one time it will come up. and if it doesnt.. well u get some intervention to help it roll it over to your number.

its so good to hear from others too though.. thankyou for writing this post. it makes me feel not so alone.

[aeo]

Oh hun, i am so sorry to hear your troubles, i know how you feel. We have been trying for 18 months, 19 months if no BFP this cycle.

I can't get any medical help till june 1st, as that was when i had my missed miscarriage and they are mean doctors and wont help since i got pregnant once 10 months ago.

I can't cope, it is really hard, the death of our twins (misscarriage) in june last year makes it worse, counseling has been on my mind a lot, though i don't know how they can help me, i don't really think breathing exercises to help relive stress are for me been there tried that. I am depressed over this whole journey.

There have been so many times i just want to give up all together and be childless because i don't understand why i can't be blessed with a baby.

This month our recent engagement and wedding is helping me cope, i start school in a week so hopefully that will help with the not trying for a few months so i don't get a BFP and am due on my wedding day i really don't want that, i don't mind being pregnant but not having it it cause i'm in labor isn't my ideal day after all this money we are paying. That might seem selfish but i'd like to plan around my day and since i haven't got lucky yet what is a few more months of AF showing, just to have an awesome wedding day to tell our children all about.

[BifkinPoomonger]

We are about to hit the 12 month mark and will be ceasing TTC if nothing has happened by then.

No timeframe set on how long we will stop for, I just feel like 12 months is enough for now and if it hasn't happened I need to take a break, completely dip out of that world and just enjoy life without the stress.

At this point in time, that's my best comping mechanism.

[titch482]

16months of TTC here, second cycleon cmolim, hoping and praying like mad for a BFP this month.

honestly dont know what else to doto help our chances.

definintely understand this dark period you are going through