Wedding Forum

[cglaffin]

Hey ladies,

My fiance' and I were discussing our bomboniere's tonight. Chris doesn't feel they are important enough to spend hard earned money on, plus he feels our guests won't want to take them home when the wedding is over. Me; I'm not really sure about them, 1. If we were to have them it's a hard decision to make when deciding what bomboniere to have. 2. Honestly I'm on the fence either way, it would be nice to have them but I could easily find something else to spend the cash on and 3. Are they an important aspect of a wedding?

If someone could please answer #3 that would be great. I know it's our wedding and we should feel free to do whatever we want but I would greatly appreciate some helpful feedback on this topic.

Thank you.

[seaweed]

I personally don't think that in the grand scheme of things they are really important, but in saying that you can be sneaky and have cupcakes as part of your wedding cake and use these as sweets and bomboniere at the same time, so you are only paying for something that is doing 3 jobs.

[seaweed]

Correction I meant to say NOT really important.

[Sydneygirl]

I don't think they are important, I'm umming and ahhing about if we will even have them. The truth is most people probably won't even notice if you don't have bonbonniere. And if you do hav one, half the guests will forget to take it home.

I recently went to wedding, the couple had champagne glasses with little heart chocolates in them. I actually didn't want to take it for the reason, what am i going to do with 2 (really cheap) champagne glasses, I already have 2 sets of 6 nice ones at home. FH insisted on taking them because he has a Real sweet tooth and wanted the choccy. Well the chocolate was revolting and both got thrown out 2 days later. a few of our other friends that were at he wedding forgot to take them home at all.

I think 90% of the time bonboneire are expensive and not appreciated by guests. I agree with seaweed, if you can make it part of your cake or something that you have nyway, that's probably the best option.

[RockabillyWife]

Not overly important. We spent a reasonable amount on our bonbons, and half didn't get taken.
Which upset me alot lol, because I put a ton of time into preparing them!

So pretty much, not essential, and I have been to weddings that didn't have them, and I didn't notice!

[lollol0003]

Not overly important. We spent a reasonable amount on our bonbons, and half didn't get taken.
Which upset me alot lol, because I put a ton of time into preparing them!

So pretty much, not essential, and I have been to weddings that didn't have them, and I didn't notice!

I was worried about people not taking them - so we are doing scratchies - people will at least scratch them and leave them behind rather than forget them all together, and if they to forget them, they won't need to go to waste :-p

[Hehe]

Nope i don't think they're that important.

Whilst most weddings i've been to have had them, there have been a few that haven't. At the ones where there hasn't been any bombineire i didn't hear one single person complain. Tbh i don't think many of the guests even realised!

We ended up having small silver wrapped chocolates for ours, but that was also to make the tables "prettier." Up unil a few weeks before the wedding we weren't planning on having any bomboneire at all.

[cglaffin]

Hey ladies,

Thanks for all your great replies and insightful input.

In response to a couple suggestions we are actually having a cupcake tower as our wedding cake but my fiance' doesn't want to use them as the bonbon he'd rather we have them for dessert. I'm actually warming to the idea of not having bonbon's at all, it would save time and money to not have to worry about them.

I'd rather not worry about them then have guest decide they don't want to take theirs home.

Thanks again

[cglaffin]

Hey,

Yeah I definitely want to make it a top priority to send out 'Thank You Cards' after the wedding. I attended a wedding where the newly married couple didn't bother and I really thought that was disrespectful to the guests who attended to not take the time to do this.

Yeah, my mind is pretty much made up to not have bonbon's. I don't want to take the time making them or choosing them and then the guests forgot them or not want to take them.

Thank you to everyone who offered my their opinions it's been very helpful to read everyone's thoughts.

[Meridian]

We are having a lolly buffet as our bombonnierre, using the boxes for people to put the lollies in as place cards. If they forget to take their share - lollies for the honeymoon